Comments on: Why I Stay

By: Sula Lee

Sula Lee — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 23:26:27 +0000

That was a beautiful post. My husband is an alcoholic-addict and people often ask me why I stay as well. After reading your post, I can't think why I do. My husband doesn't share any of those qualities. Thank you for the eye-opener. It's one thing to stay when there is a good man behind the addiction, and another to stay when you want there to be.

By: theotherbed

theotherbed — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 15:18:41 +0000

Wow, I admire your courage, and it is a pleasure to read, to be in there and comforted by your voice.

Should I stay or should I go is a constant theme in COSA meetings. If my husband would acknowledge his acting out, the affairs, I might have more compassion for him. To make me the crazy one is, in my mind, worse than sleeping with other women. But in the end, it's all bad.

Thanks for being here and putting it all out there.

By: Mrs. B. Roth

Mrs. B. Roth — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 20:48:18 +0000

You really are amazing to have gone through such hell and still be able to see this man - truly as God see's us - infinite potential, burdened by physical limitations.

Best of best of luck, forever.

By: Zion

Zion — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 18:16:08 +0000

I think I've read this post a dozen times, literally, in the last week. And promised my husband that I will work on achieving this point of view.

By: Annette

Annette — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 23:37:00 +0000

Thank you so much for the beautifully written piece. I just yesterday found out that my boyfriend...a man I love more deeply than I've loved any man...is a sex addict. He's not a monster, and you confirmed my belief that it doesn't define him. It's a part of him that needs help. I will help him and love him, without being codependent. You are living, breathing, blogging proof there is love and hope. Thank you from the bottom of my tear-soaked heart.

By: Mary P Jones (MPJ)

Mary P Jones (MPJ) — Fri, 30 May 2008 03:39:00 +0000

broken, I'm so glad sharing my experience has helped. My best to you.

By: Broken

Broken — Fri, 30 May 2008 03:30:00 +0000

Wow! This was exactly what I needed to hear right now. Thank you. Finding your blog tonight was truly a God-send.

By: Rae

Rae — Sun, 15 Jul 2007 19:06:00 +0000

Thank you so very much for this post. It is exactly what I needed to read today. Sometimes when my addiction gets the best of me and I "go back out there" ... all I can think is what a horrible person I am. I'm not a horrible person ... this much I know. I don't mean to hurt anyone, but I hurt them nonetheless. Thank you, beyond words.

By: Recovering Addict

Recovering Addict — Fri, 06 Jul 2007 06:45:00 +0000

Thank you for this post... I needed it. My wife thinks I'm a monster. I hope that someday she can see me for who she's known me to be... the man I want to be.

By: just another addict

just another addict — Tue, 03 Jul 2007 18:50:00 +0000

I came back to read this again.
I LOVE this post.
More Love,
Scout