It's raining. I'm in bed. I had a talk last night with my husband in which he shared some information about recent slips in his sobriety (neither surprising, nor unexpected, nor actually upsetting) and long past slips he hadn't shared before (somewhat surprising and unexpectedly upsetting). I haven't processed it all yet, so I am not going to write about it yet. I decided I was taking the day off, shirking my responsibilities for once. So, I'm in bed, watching the rain. My husband is taking care of the kids. It's my day off.
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love to you mpj! i'm sorry you're sad. sending happy thoughts your way
I'm sorry, MPJ. I hope tomorrow is a better day.
My heart goes out to you. I hope the sadness washes away with the rain.
Ooo a day off. What a good idea. Maybe you could cheat and say that you need one day to 'process' every week? Think anyone would fall for it?
Cheers
Oh, I'm sorry that you're sad, too, MPJ. I wish I could tuck you up in bed and feed you chocolate soy ice-cream (because I'm vegan).
I was just wondering about something you wrote in response to my last post. You talked about Mark targeting specific individuals (foreigners etc). I was wondering whether he actually consciously set out to do that, or whether it was an unconscious thing. It would be nice.
So sorry...
If you want, I'll get on an airplane and meet you somewhere. It could either be somewhere tropical, or it could be somewhere to help you hide his body.
A day off this blog is good. I know where to find you, my friend.
Love!
Scout
I could make your sadness all about me by telling you how helpless I feel that there is nothing I can write to make it better. But probably it is better to just write that you are not alone—not in your sorrow and not in your joy.
And you will just have to have faith that things will work out, then breath so you don't notice so much how long it's taking for that to happen.
Now when people tell me something like what I just wrote, I punch them in the eye which makes it easier for me to breath, then I thank them for the nice thought and useless words while apologizing for the black eye. And suddenly I don't feel so blue.
maybe you just need to let it all slide for awhile
You deserve a day off
"Days off" are so hard to come by when you're a Mommy - I'm glad you had one and hope that you're feeling much better today. I'd be interested in hearing more from you about the "slips" (when/if you're ready to discuss them, of course). My husband and I are new to this - I only found out about his SA 2 months ago and he has 66 days of sobriety. He hasn't had a slip yet but I, at times, find myself extremely anxious at the thought of him having one. I'm not sure how forgiving I'd be able to be... ((hugs))
I really believe that old saying of "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger." I think it's great your hubby is sharing with you. At the same time, I know it has to be tough to deal with. I'm glad you have this blog and all of us who read to support you. We're cheering you on!
Oh, Mama. I'm crying with you and watching our gray gray skies and lovin' Mama Nature for empathizing with all of her mamas. My husband has been on and off the SA wagon for eight years and just told me about his recent acting out, after 3 yrs 4 mo. of sobriety. It was his longest period yet, and like your husband, he came clean to me on his own, too. So back on the wagon and back on the couch for him, and dusting off the truth serum and willpower for me. Sending you a big (((hug))) from a total stranger who sorta gets it. B well. You are not alone
Thanks for the hug, Sophie. Dealing with relapses is hard. It's amazing to me sometimes that the same behavior and lies still have the power to hurt so much -- even when I know to expect them.