*shiver*

I cringe at the word intervention, it's like immediate combat stance when I hear it. The mental image that floats through my mind is one of doctors, nurses, machines and wild eyed parents, all in a frenzied, swooping down on some poor kid and all he can say is Huh? The image and the message I think we tend to portray on WP is just the opposite. Picture the intervention of a bunch of us swooping down on the parents and saying it ain't us, it's you. Get your mind right and we're here to tell you just how it is and suggest how to do it.

The beauty of WP is you can get your eyes opened wide, because we can tell you the diversity of it. I can write now, but couldn't. I can speak a thought better now but couldn't. And I'm the advocate for those that still can't. And if I don’t know an answer, someone else will. If I get it wrong someone will state exactly why they think I’m wrong.

Yeah I still think being aware of the situation factually is very important. I do not want to see the kids go through what us elder’s did. What was being tried as helping me came across to me as a punishment and it was. It took a lot of self sorting to figure it out and I’m still doing it. It set up some really long life problems and hence finding out that I may very well be Aspie, was the huge breath of fresh air I needed. All of a sudden, my life made sense. I sure as hell do not want to see what happened to me happen for the younger. But you know what? Because it happened to me, I don’t look at it as a negative, it’s positive because I can show you an end result. I lived a version of how not to do it and my parents were very caring, it wasn’t their fault, no one knew. But we do now, don’t we.

I had a thought about lurkers on WP. I was writing about not being able to write till about a year or so ago. A parent had come on lamenting the fact that their high IQ son wasn’t toeing the line with writing, he wasn’t doing it at all. I suggested some things, the whys of it and as is normal, others came on with even better insights and how to do it. We know because we lived it. See it isn’t always the AS, it’s the things that come a long for the ride. What struck me was this, there are those with in the spectrum that still can't get it out, but yet can read just fine. All this time I was thinking it was the NT's and the shy spectrums that were doing the lurking. Yeah we live and learn and hope to do it better.

Always refreshing to see people speak of not trying to cure. It's who I am, I don't want to be cured.
(Lol, if you didn’t catch this one, it was a hoot, someone coined a term on WP, Jenny McCarthyisam and ain’t it the fucking truth. I suppose it could have been thought of else where, but this was the first I saw it.)

Lurking, well your choice of course. We don't bite, well I do, it's just my bad attitude and I don't bite hard. And yeah I know half as long but this gets me fired up. Sorry about the length. You rcok’n’roll!!!

“The single-child yuppo-family that uses the child as a status object: `A perfect child? Of course! We have one here -- he's under the coffee table. Ralph, stand up! Play the violin!'“
Frank Zappa

It's not necessarily true that your kids won't learn a Spanish "r". I learned a French "r" and a German "r" and I wasn't exposed to either of those languages until I was about 11 or 12. A lot of it depends on how good the child's ear is. I find that musical people are good at languages (particularly as regards developing an authentic accent), probably because their brains are hard-wired to be be interested in sound.

A much more trivial example but the same issue, I think.