Comments on: It all Comes back Around

By: dynomitegirl

dynomitegirl — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 14:20:33 +0000

I got up early this morning so I could keep reading. If this was a piece of fiction that I had picked up off of the summer reads desk at the library it would be good, but its not, and I am sorry, the moment that changes everything. Those are the moments we never forget. The ones that hurt us in a way we didn't know we could be hurt.

By: Charlie

Charlie — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 03:02:00 +0000

'with anxiety at what I knew must be coming...

"Because I had sex with that woman."

That is when everything ended, and everything began.'

I felt like I was there with you feeling this. Loved that last line.

By: FI0NA

FI0NA — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 02:32:00 +0000

Last night as I was driving home I had this thought. Is the revelation that your husband/partner has had sex with someone else the worst thing in the world? My answer these days would be "No" Reading your post has made me come to question myself. I know for sure such behaviour goes against everything I was brought up to believe (ie to my naive self, THAT, INFIDELITY, is completely wrong, immoral and disrespectful. I know most people would display shock at such a revelation (but I also suspect it is not uncommon). It makes me sick to think my SA significant other has "normalised" the situation for me

By: Guilty Secret

Guilty Secret — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 11:00:00 +0000

Oh man, only when I got to the end of this post did I realise I'd been holding my breath as I read it.

By: Ingrid

Ingrid — Sat, 15 Mar 2008 23:18:00 +0000

If I ever go through something like that, I hope the same courage and sensibility to handle it as you did.

By: Mary P Jones (MPJ)

Mary P Jones (MPJ) — Sat, 15 Mar 2008 21:02:00 +0000

Chatti Patti, that's coming next!

By: CHATTI PATTI

CHATTI PATTI — Sat, 15 Mar 2008 19:48:00 +0000

Oh my gosh. Hugs to you. When our inner world collapses, it's unbearable. How did you move forward?

By: Velvet Verbosity

Velvet Verbosity — Sat, 15 Mar 2008 05:47:00 +0000

I know this is all in past tense, but I just can't help feeling like I want to hug you. The best I can do is a virtual hug and here it is. (((**)))

By: marta

marta — Sat, 15 Mar 2008 04:02:00 +0000

I'm not sure which is braver--staying to save your marriage or sharing your story. Gut wrenching really and perhaps helpful to us all since none of us know what is waiting around the next bend.

Your writing here helps me see even more into why some women stay with there husbands when many stand by and shake their heads.

But I've always thought it unwise to try to judge or explain anyone else's marriage. We just never know. But people used to think my dad was crazy for staying with his second wife for so long--now granted, she was a wounded and cruel person and he could've saved us all a lot of grief if he had gotten out of that relationship sooner, but I've also thought that my father showed deep loyalty and understanding to her.

Well, it takes us all to make the world go round. Thank you for sharing.

By: Mary P Jones (MPJ)

Mary P Jones (MPJ) — Sat, 15 Mar 2008 03:30:00 +0000

Wow, you all! And Jay, you even know some of this story already, because I came running to you (thank God!) the very next day I think. Sharing this story with all of you reminds me in so many ways how lucky I am for all the love in my life. Thank you all for being here.