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By: Mary P Jones (MPJ)

Mary P Jones (MPJ) — Sat, 15 Mar 2008 04:05:00 +0000

thegentlepath, welcome! I agree that fame and fortune do make recovery so much harder. And unfortunately, I believe that addicts are more likely to be drawn to (and successful in -- for a time) the types of careers that lead to fame and fortune.

By: thegentlepath

thegentlepath — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 00:38:00 +0000

Hi - I just found your blog and I was touched by your thoughts on the Spitzer scandal.

I wouldn't wish being an addict or co-addict on my worst enemy, but I doubly wouldn't wish fame on any addict. Treatment and paparazzi are mutually exclusive.

By: Karen

Karen — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0000

I knew you'd have the goods on this one.

By: Mary P Jones (MPJ)

Mary P Jones (MPJ) — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 13:40:00 +0000

Moanna, so funny -- I was listening to NPR yesterday thinking I so desperately wanted to be their guest commentator on Spitzer! I'm finding that Spitzer's seemingly contradictory actions make sense to me in an addiction framework. (Been there in Crazyland!)

I'm terribly busy right now (and have a lingering cold -- drat!) and want to finish my current story arc -- but I've really been wanting to write about it in more detail. Sadly, the thought that there will be plenty of next times, so I don't have to jump on this right now, is helping me to let go and put off the writing in the way I need to to take care of me right now.

By: Moanna

Moanna — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 12:50:00 +0000

Hey MPJ, when this came on the news, I immediately thought of you and Hillary.

Also, in the media, I'm seeing discussion of wives who stay after being betrayed but not discussion of Spitzer as being a sex addict, as such. So am thinking it's too bad you don't have a book ready to hit the shelves. But you might start writing it. There's always a next time.

By: Slutty McWhore

Slutty McWhore — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 19:28:00 +0000

I read the New York Times front page article about this today, and I have to say that it really disturbed me that some of the prostitutes Spitzer had been with said that he had been "difficult" and wanted to force them into unsafe practices.

Being a sex worker, I come across my fair share of sex addicts (some more obvious than others) but I have to say that very few of them were ever "difficult" or treated me disrespectfully.

Therefore, to answer Marta's question, I think that Spitzer is an addict, AND an abusive asshole.

By: woman.anonymous7

woman.anonymous7 — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 04:57:00 +0000

I had that same thought about the Clintons!

And I can't wait to see your post in reply to Marta. I agree - it deserves its own post.

By: Mary P Jones (MPJ)

Mary P Jones (MPJ) — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 04:14:00 +0000

Marta, I think your question is going to require its own post -- maybe next week, after I finish my current series.

By: Mary P Jones (MPJ)

Mary P Jones (MPJ) — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 04:13:00 +0000

Jay, you did that thing again where you said what I should have/want to say -- and did it better than I would have!

By: marta

marta — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 04:08:00 +0000

Well to Jay's comment I would add that you don't need to be an addict to believe everything you say is true even when all evidence points to the contrary--but that's another problem entirely.

I'm just wondering, in a real, sincere way, how do you know the difference between an addict--who I'd see as a good person caught in a problem--and an abuser? Not that I think Spitzer is the latter. In fact, maybe addicts can be good and can be bad but they're still addicts. I don't know. But some men are predators and some are not...I feel I've known both. What is the difference to you?