This search was so wonderful, I had to answer the question:
"ARE THERE ANY DAMN ONLINE GROUPS FOR PARTNERS OF SEX ADDICTS?"
It was in all caps. With the word "damn" in it. That poor person was pissed off at her (or his) partner and Google all at once. (Oddly enough, the searcher wound up at a post that is not about partners of sex addicts at all, probably pissing her/him off further.)
Still, honey, if you do wind up here again, curse that search engine no more: you've come to the right codependent. As luck would have it, there are some damn online groups for partners of sex addicts, and because I know how frustrating it is to look for support, I've compiled some resources right here for you:
- COSA Online Message Boards and COSA Telemeetings
COSA is the partner group of Sex Addicts Anonymous. - Junky's Wives Club (Sex Addict Partner Group)
You must sign up for a Ning account and join the Junky's Wives Club to view or post to this group. (Bonus for you: I'm a member.) - Serenity Place
- Heart to Heart Partners Group
This is a discussion group set up (for some mysterious reason) in blog format. It's associated with the Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado, and many of the women have been counseled there. - Recovery Nation
A recovery site that uses a "health based" model focusing more on "value development, life management and emotional maturity" rather than taking a traditional disease model approach. - CoAnon E-mail Support Group (e-mail coanon-subscribe@sarr.org to subscribe)
- Oh, and there's this very blog, of course. Pull up a chair and join me! And poke around my blog roll. There are lots of other wonderful bloggers in recovery.
Good luck!
And if any of the rest of you all know of other online resources I've missed, let me know and I'll add them.
Interesting. Recovery Nation has information for partners that makes sense even if the addiction is not a sexual addiction.
Such as: Maintain balance in your own life. Do not become consumed with your loved one's recovery program, or with a potential relapse.
And: If an individual does not take responsibility for their past behavior, they will not take responsibility for their future behavior, either.
Thanks for the link, MPJ!
xox
Was I ever stunned today when I came across your blog! I AM the person who googled "ARE THERE ANY DAMN ONLINE GROUPS FOR PARTNERS OF SEX ADDICTS?"
You are a life savior. I have been involved in face to face (f2f) meetings; belonged to three of the groups you mentioned yet I was not finding the support I needed so I was looking for other online groups.
Thanks so much for posting the results of my question.
I have to say that when I came across your site here today, that I almost died with laughter to see my question written out and the fact that I found your site. There is a Higher Power out there for sure.
As I am sure you know, living as a partner to a sex addict is not easy. Also, I am sure that you recognize the need to keep the focus on ourselves. So much to learn and so much I have learned already. Recovery is a journey, and not a destination. It is a gift also although it is not always wrapped so nicely.
I have never commented on a blog at any time online. This is also a first for me.
Thanks for your sense of humor (I find that to be necessary in order to deal with my recovery).
I had been thinking of creating a blog for partners of sex addicts. And in particular thinking about doing so after I googled out my frustrated "call" for any help.
I hope it does not offend you if I pray for you, your family and your site. Again, thanks so much.
I have used "anonymous" for now as this is a bit anxiety producing for me to respond to your post.
I am now going to read more of your blog.
Hope and peace, Anonymous
Yay, Anonymous! I'm so happy you found me again and happy I could help. I remember looking for online groups and not being able to find much of anything when I first found out about my husband's addiction, so I sympathized with your frustration.
And I haven't brought myself to be much of a praying persons yet, but I always love all the prayers I can get and will keep you in my thoughts.
Thanks for taking the time to comment and let me know you found this.
Do you know of any support groups for HUSBANDS of sex addicts? There seem to be so many more sites for wives, than there are for husbands, and I hate to admit this, but my husband is in this unenviable position, and I put him there. Well, I know I didn't actually put him there, that he had his own issues before he married me- the sex addict- but without my addiction, he wouldn't know he had issues, either. So it is a blessing, though not one I'd like to have, I have to admit. Thanks for your site, and prayerfully, my husband can find support as well. I'm working on getting my support base...
WOW! I was just googling for groups for wives of recovering sex addicts. I got this site too. Thanks. Interesting, we also have a child on the autism spectrum. Thanks for your site.
daisyj
great to find an online community for support of sex addicts - pity there's not many face to face support groups out there. at least online theres the anonymity aspect involved I mean most people dont like to admit they are with a sex addict
Thanks for the sites. I will check them out. My husband just told me today that he cheated on me with a man this week, and that he is a sex addict. I am shocked, hurt, and don't know who to turn to. I have started here.