Comments on: Jesus Is my Ex* http://aroomofmamasown.com/2008/07/jesus-is-my-ex/ Tue, 10 Apr 2012 03:24:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: kinsey http://aroomofmamasown.com/2008/07/jesus-is-my-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-7077 kinsey Fri, 12 Mar 2010 12:59:24 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/wordpress/?p=511#comment-7077 MPJ, Thanks for this. I was feeling grateful this morning when I woke up, and found this post had the effect on me of making me even more so. Jesus and I still go steady, but I've backed off from real committment while I work through some things. He's cool with this, but at least one friend I have would be FURIOUS if she knew. For her my struggles w/ this addiciton and my choices in recovery are so obviously not the way to go. She's got the answers, I'm on her prayer list, she'd like to get together and talk (I need to be set straight on some things.) You make me smile. Thanks, and thanks for continuing to offer your support on jwc. "Kinsey" MPJ,
Thanks for this. I was feeling grateful this morning when I woke up, and found this post had the effect on me of making me even more so. Jesus and I still go steady, but I've backed off from real committment while I work through some things. He's cool with this, but at least one friend I have would be FURIOUS if she knew. For her my struggles w/ this addiciton and my choices in recovery are so obviously not the way to go. She's got the answers, I'm on her prayer list, she'd like to get together and talk (I need to be set straight on some things.)
You make me smile. Thanks, and thanks for continuing to offer your support on jwc.
"Kinsey"

]]> By: The Second Road Family » Different Strokes http://aroomofmamasown.com/2008/07/jesus-is-my-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-6875 The Second Road Family » Different Strokes Mon, 01 Feb 2010 20:21:16 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/wordpress/?p=511#comment-6875 [...] the same experience with religion. I had bad experiences with Christianity growing up; it’s just not a good fit for me. And I’ve had people evangelize me over the years: “You’ve never tried my church. [...] [...] the same experience with religion. I had bad experiences with Christianity growing up; it’s just not a good fit for me. And I’ve had people evangelize me over the years: “You’ve never tried my church. [...]

]]> By: mosey along http://aroomofmamasown.com/2008/07/jesus-is-my-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-6727 mosey along Sat, 19 Dec 2009 05:51:42 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/wordpress/?p=511#comment-6727 Although I'm not Catholic, it sounds like you and I have had similar spiritual journeys - away from the religions of our youth. It's been so enlightening reading about it from your point of view, and this post specifically spoke to the dogma that I've always struggled against - that for some there is only one path and if everyone else isn't on that path they're wrong. Full stop. I'm sure you've evolved even more since this occurred and since you wrote about it in 2008, but thank you for sharing it. Although I'm not Catholic, it sounds like you and I have had similar spiritual journeys - away from the religions of our youth. It's been so enlightening reading about it from your point of view, and this post specifically spoke to the dogma that I've always struggled against - that for some there is only one path and if everyone else isn't on that path they're wrong. Full stop.

I'm sure you've evolved even more since this occurred and since you wrote about it in 2008, but thank you for sharing it.

]]> By: Mary P Jones (MPJ) http://aroomofmamasown.com/2008/07/jesus-is-my-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-3395 Mary P Jones (MPJ) Thu, 10 Jul 2008 17:43:00 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/wordpress/?p=511#comment-3395 Sophie, I think I told you that I found S-Anon really hard and very triggering for a lot of the same reasons. There were a lot of really hurting women who were stuck (mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically) in really bad places -- and in my group, at least, there were no healthy hopeful voices to balance that out. It was a good place to vent and work through my anger, but not a good place to find continued support in recovery.<br/><br/>And yes, I'm sending fairy dust your way now. ;) Sophie, I think I told you that I found S-Anon really hard and very triggering for a lot of the same reasons. There were a lot of really hurting women who were stuck (mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically) in really bad places -- and in my group, at least, there were no healthy hopeful voices to balance that out. It was a good place to vent and work through my anger, but not a good place to find continued support in recovery.

And yes, I'm sending fairy dust your way now. ;)

]]> By: Mary P Jones (MPJ) http://aroomofmamasown.com/2008/07/jesus-is-my-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-3394 Mary P Jones (MPJ) Thu, 10 Jul 2008 17:39:00 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/wordpress/?p=511#comment-3394 Marla, perfect sense! Marla, perfect sense!

]]> By: Mary P Jones (MPJ) http://aroomofmamasown.com/2008/07/jesus-is-my-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-3393 Mary P Jones (MPJ) Thu, 10 Jul 2008 17:38:00 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/wordpress/?p=511#comment-3393 gentlepath, yep. Wives are angry and probably scared too. I know that my husband (and I'm not alone in this) acted out with my female friends, which makes female friendships harder and less easy to trust. That makes it scary to put ourselves out there again with women we think might hurt us. gentlepath, yep. Wives are angry and probably scared too. I know that my husband (and I'm not alone in this) acted out with my female friends, which makes female friendships harder and less easy to trust. That makes it scary to put ourselves out there again with women we think might hurt us.

]]> By: Mary P Jones (MPJ) http://aroomofmamasown.com/2008/07/jesus-is-my-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-3392 Mary P Jones (MPJ) Thu, 10 Jul 2008 17:33:00 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/wordpress/?p=511#comment-3392 Recovery Discovery (aka R) and Kellee, it's now on the Greatest Hits.<br/><br/>And R, yes, we can go steady now that Jesus and I are no longer an item. ;) Recovery Discovery (aka R) and Kellee, it's now on the Greatest Hits.

And R, yes, we can go steady now that Jesus and I are no longer an item. ;)

]]> By: storyteller http://aroomofmamasown.com/2008/07/jesus-is-my-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-3376 storyteller Wed, 09 Jul 2008 17:21:00 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/wordpress/?p=511#comment-3376 I’m so glad all of your posts remain in my reader. I’ve decided to take them on ‘randomly’ since no other way seems to make sense at the moment. It may take me a while to catch up, but I wouldn’t have missed this one for the world. Although I share none of your actual experiences in the world, the underlying processes are often parallel … and when I read of this woman I found myself remembering similarly angry folks wanting ME to be ‘pissed’ at my ‘ex’ for leaving (particularly under the circumstances he did so) … as if there was something clearly wrong with ME because I didn’t share their perspective and/or responses. Like you … eventually I came to recognize just what lesson ‘each’ had for me … worked through the issues one by one and found these individuals either work through their OWN issues and remain in my life, or fail to do so and leave me alone. I’ve come to believe that the Universe DOES provide us with what we need, when we need it … and when we’re ready … things fall away as we release them. Thanks (as always) for being you and sharing so honestly. I’m grateful you’re in my ‘virtual’ world ;--)<br/>Hugs and blessings, I’m so glad all of your posts remain in my reader. I’ve decided to take them on ‘randomly’ since no other way seems to make sense at the moment. It may take me a while to catch up, but I wouldn’t have missed this one for the world. Although I share none of your actual experiences in the world, the underlying processes are often parallel … and when I read of this woman I found myself remembering similarly angry folks wanting ME to be ‘pissed’ at my ‘ex’ for leaving (particularly under the circumstances he did so) … as if there was something clearly wrong with ME because I didn’t share their perspective and/or responses. Like you … eventually I came to recognize just what lesson ‘each’ had for me … worked through the issues one by one and found these individuals either work through their OWN issues and remain in my life, or fail to do so and leave me alone. I’ve come to believe that the Universe DOES provide us with what we need, when we need it … and when we’re ready … things fall away as we release them. Thanks (as always) for being you and sharing so honestly. I’m grateful you’re in my ‘virtual’ world ;--)
Hugs and blessings,

]]> By: kristi http://aroomofmamasown.com/2008/07/jesus-is-my-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-3373 kristi Wed, 09 Jul 2008 15:27:00 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/wordpress/?p=511#comment-3373 This post is making a lot of sense to me! This post is making a lot of sense to me!

]]> By: indistinct http://aroomofmamasown.com/2008/07/jesus-is-my-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-3369 indistinct Tue, 08 Jul 2008 13:28:00 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/wordpress/?p=511#comment-3369 I almost missed this post. Awesome post. Lots of grist. I almost missed this post. Awesome post. Lots of grist.

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