Comments on: On the Golden Gate Bridge http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/03/on-the-golden-gate-bridge/ Tue, 10 Apr 2012 03:24:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Margaux http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/03/on-the-golden-gate-bridge/comment-page-1/#comment-5526 Margaux Sun, 05 Apr 2009 01:17:11 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/?p=1366#comment-5526 I always love reading your thoughts on perfectionism since it's one of my own demons. I, too, have a hard time admitting that I might not fully 'get' something. But lately I'm realizing that when I'm holding myself to "expert" standards, I miss out on the childlike wonder that comes with experiencing new things. I always love reading your thoughts on perfectionism since it's one of my own demons. I, too, have a hard time admitting that I might not fully 'get' something. But lately I'm realizing that when I'm holding myself to "expert" standards, I miss out on the childlike wonder that comes with experiencing new things.

]]> By: Tanya @ TeenAutism http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/03/on-the-golden-gate-bridge/comment-page-1/#comment-5503 Tanya @ TeenAutism Wed, 01 Apr 2009 21:53:35 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/?p=1366#comment-5503 Sounds like a wonderful trip - especially with the self-knowledge you gained. Welcome home! Sounds like a wonderful trip - especially with the self-knowledge you gained. Welcome home!

]]> By: Ariane http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/03/on-the-golden-gate-bridge/comment-page-1/#comment-5501 Ariane Wed, 01 Apr 2009 09:09:04 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/?p=1366#comment-5501 I oscillate a bit between pretending to be perfect and prefacing everything with "I'm completely clueless, can you help me?". I hadn't before thought of the former as coming from a position of fear. But that would correlate with the situations and global moods that have prevailed in both situations. I hope you really enjoyed your break. Sounds really interesting. I oscillate a bit between pretending to be perfect and prefacing everything with "I'm completely clueless, can you help me?". I hadn't before thought of the former as coming from a position of fear. But that would correlate with the situations and global moods that have prevailed in both situations.

I hope you really enjoyed your break. Sounds really interesting.

]]> By: Mary P Jones http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/03/on-the-golden-gate-bridge/comment-page-1/#comment-5499 Mary P Jones Wed, 01 Apr 2009 04:47:06 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/?p=1366#comment-5499 Mrs. B Roth, I know! $6? Dang! Mrs. B Roth, I know! $6? Dang!

]]> By: Sophie in the Moonlight http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/03/on-the-golden-gate-bridge/comment-page-1/#comment-5498 Sophie in the Moonlight Tue, 31 Mar 2009 20:59:47 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/?p=1366#comment-5498 What a lovely trip!! and what a valuable lesson to realize!! I lived in SF for years and years. I've driven and walked over and under the GG Bridge and it's a thrill experience every time. There was an old, revered, wonderful newspaper columnist (now deceased) named Herb Caen. He called SF "Bagdad by the Bay" and every time I came from Marin over the Bridge I marveled at my glittering Bagdad by the Bay, my home, the place where I learned to become my own woman. Point Reyes is a stunningly spiritual place no matter the time of year or the weather. Even the journey through the woods to get there is spiritual. I'm glad you made it home safely and intact. I know how much you love to travel. ;) Oh, and by the by, not to detract from your valuable insight at the toll booth, but those people are bastards to everyone. There's no way you were singled out for special snarkiness. I think they're all imported from NYC to do their job. What a lovely trip!! and what a valuable lesson to realize!!

I lived in SF for years and years. I've driven and walked over and under the GG Bridge and it's a thrill experience every time. There was an old, revered, wonderful newspaper columnist (now deceased) named Herb Caen. He called SF "Bagdad by the Bay" and every time I came from Marin over the Bridge I marveled at my glittering Bagdad by the Bay, my home, the place where I learned to become my own woman. Point Reyes is a stunningly spiritual place no matter the time of year or the weather. Even the journey through the woods to get there is spiritual.

I'm glad you made it home safely and intact. I know how much you love to travel. ;)

Oh, and by the by, not to detract from your valuable insight at the toll booth, but those people are bastards to everyone. There's no way you were singled out for special snarkiness. I think they're all imported from NYC to do their job.

]]> By: Meg Moran http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/03/on-the-golden-gate-bridge/comment-page-1/#comment-5494 Meg Moran Tue, 31 Mar 2009 17:26:19 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/?p=1366#comment-5494 I have been known to pull on out of the atm line without completing my transaction because "things" (buttons, bells, messages) are not responding quite right and I am in fear of the person behind me judging me. Now how sick is that? Ha! I don't even need to travel....this is in my own town. Sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly............ I have been known to pull on out of the atm line without completing my transaction because "things" (buttons, bells, messages) are not responding quite right and I am in fear of the person behind me judging me. Now how sick is that? Ha! I don't even need to travel....this is in my own town. Sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly............

]]> By: Syd http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/03/on-the-golden-gate-bridge/comment-page-1/#comment-5493 Syd Tue, 31 Mar 2009 15:30:29 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/?p=1366#comment-5493 Yes, I know that feeling when being criticized. It's a defensive posture. I have learned that it's okay to say--You may be right. It's a great response to diffuse the ego and a critical situation. I wonder what the toll collector would have thought if you had said, You may be right? Yes, I know that feeling when being criticized. It's a defensive posture. I have learned that it's okay to say--You may be right. It's a great response to diffuse the ego and a critical situation. I wonder what the toll collector would have thought if you had said, You may be right?

]]> By: Mrs. B. Roth http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/03/on-the-golden-gate-bridge/comment-page-1/#comment-5492 Mrs. B. Roth Tue, 31 Mar 2009 14:58:32 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/?p=1366#comment-5492 $6 toll?! Holy Cow. How much for parking?? (I've never been to California...) $6 toll?! Holy Cow. How much for parking??

(I've never been to California...)

]]> By: Sunny http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/03/on-the-golden-gate-bridge/comment-page-1/#comment-5491 Sunny Tue, 31 Mar 2009 12:43:38 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/?p=1366#comment-5491 I've never been anywhere near the golden gate bridge...but there are some big bridges around here...and I never get tired of crossing them. After the incredible fear and anxiety is gone that is. I've always hated being a "stupid tourist" too. It's not that I want people to think I'm local, I just want the locals to think I'm not like "all those annoying tourists" haha. I've never been anywhere near the golden gate bridge...but there are some big bridges around here...and I never get tired of crossing them. After the incredible fear and anxiety is gone that is.

I've always hated being a "stupid tourist" too. It's not that I want people to think I'm local, I just want the locals to think I'm not like "all those annoying tourists" haha.

]]> By: Yvonne http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/03/on-the-golden-gate-bridge/comment-page-1/#comment-5490 Yvonne Tue, 31 Mar 2009 06:05:01 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/?p=1366#comment-5490 Much to think about in this post. I thoroughly dislike attempting new things in new places with new people. I do love the idea of it though and once I get through the initial introduction I do okay. Fear of failure is a big part of it. The idea of the tourist being victim is very old for me as well. My dad always walked into all new experiences, especially out-of-town ones, with his eyes alert, his back straight, and his attitude masterful. I tend to do the same--my husband calls it my John Wayne--but really it is a defensive tactic created to control the situation, to save myself from doing the wrong thing, to appear strong. It is exhausting and nerve rattling to maintain, but takes a huge leap of faith to abandon. Much to think about in this post. I thoroughly dislike attempting new things in new places with new people. I do love the idea of it though and once I get through the initial introduction I do okay. Fear of failure is a big part of it.
The idea of the tourist being victim is very old for me as well. My dad always walked into all new experiences, especially out-of-town ones, with his eyes alert, his back straight, and his attitude masterful. I tend to do the same--my husband calls it my John Wayne--but really it is a defensive tactic created to control the situation, to save myself from doing the wrong thing, to appear strong. It is exhausting and nerve rattling to maintain, but takes a huge leap of faith to abandon.

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