Image credit: Photo by h4cks on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I've got plans for tomorrow that are going to keep me away from the computer, and I knew I wanted to squeeze in one last blog post today. So first thing in the morning I began the day right: by panicking because I wasn't [...]
Posts from ‘April, 2009’
Filling the Void
Image credit: Photo by Thomas Hawk on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Earlier this month, Jason at The Second Road linked to an article by Nina Caplan, a writer who shares her experience of going without alcohol for a month. What struck me in reading her piece was how boring she found life without alcohol. [...]
Doubt
Image credit: Photo by Daniel Y. Go on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When my husband was still active in his sex addiction and I was still unaware of it, we lived our life (as many living with active addiction do) enveloped in fantasy. We frolicked inside a rainbow in a castle made of pink [...]
Meditation
Image credit: Art by alicepopkorn on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Meditation has been a great help to me in recent years, helping me calm and center myself. For the last several months, I have been sitting with a group once a week and meditating for forty-five minutes. I have been meditating regularly for shorter [...]
Alley Cat
Image credit: Photo by mirsasha on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When I was a child, I had the best cat ever. No animal past or present could compare. It wasn't that he had a sweet disposition. He was almost universally mean, awful and belligerent. When almost any creature approached him, he'd snarl, hiss, scratch, [...]
I Don’t Want to Get Out of the Shower Haikus
Tight muscles soften. Hot shower envelops me. Water drowns out sounds. Warm, relaxed, at peace I stand, leaning on the tiles, no demands on me. I linger knowing when I open that curtain the world will rush in.
Opening Up
Image credit: Photo by casch52 on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons This week I plan to tell one of my best and oldest friends about my husband's addiction after nearly six years of silence around it. I've wanted to let her in to this part of my life, because keeping her out -- keeping anyone [...]
Just Saying No
Image credit: Photo by josef.stuefer on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons My husband and I were hanging out with an old friend recently, one who is aware of his sex addiction but doesn't have direct experience with addiction herself. She keeps in touch with a lot of friends through Facebook and asked, "So, Mark, why [...]
Feeding the Emptiness
Image credit: Photo by Djuliet on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Many years ago, before we had children, my husband bought me a small fish tank for my birthday. At the time, I wanted a car. I didn't really think he could buy a car, but I was relying on a very iffy public transit [...]
Back from Vacation
Image credit: Photo by PittCaleb on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Well, I'm back from my first ever week off! I'd like to thank my guest posters: Tanya, SavedAspie, The Discovering Alcoholic, Jack's Mom, Kat and Anonymous Reader. They all did a fabulous job, and reading all the wonderful comments pointed out to me what [...]
