Promotional still of Ghosts of Girlfriends Past from IGN.com While I was away on my mini vacation a few weeks ago, I relaxed with some cheesy movie watching. Among the brainless, feel-good flicks I watched was Ghosts of Girlfriends Past, which stars Matthew McConaughey as Connor Mead, an alcoholic sex addict trying to turn his [...]
Posts from ‘August, 2009’
Summer Vacation
Image credit: Photo by emdot on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons There is a parable in the book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People about a person who works harder and harder to saw down a tree because of a perception that there is no time to stop, take a break and sharpen the saw. [...]
Hey, You’re in my Circle!
Image credit: Photo by Claudio.Ar on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When dealing with alcoholism, identifying what to abstain from in order to maintain sobriety is relatively straightforward: don't drink alcohol. But defining sobriety when the addiction is sex or food or (in the case of some of us codependents) addicts can be trickier. At [...]
Resistance Is Futile
Image credit: Photo by mydearDelilah on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons During the first year after I discovered my husband's sex addiction, I attended S-Anon, 12 Step meetings for friends and family members of sex addicts. At the beginning of each meeting we would read "The S-Anon Problem." I hated "The S-Anon Problem." I hated [...]
The Ghost of Me
Image credit: Photo by h.koppdelaney on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons This summer, I've been keeping the kids busy by running them around outside and spending lots of time splashing around in the water. The idea has been to wear them down so that they go to bed on time (an idea which totally has [...]
World’s Most Codependent Home Videos
Image credit: Photo by Stephen Poff on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Somewhere, gathering dust on a dark, forgotten shelf in my house is a video that helped greatly in my recovery. It's not one that you can buy on Amazon.com and it's not one that will help any of you. It's a video of [...]
The Once Proud Slob
Image credit: Photo by alvi2047 on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I used to love to watch The Odd Couple on TV growing up. I always hated Felix, so prissy and uptight, but I loved Oscar, unable to find his bed under piles of clothes and bits of old sandwiches. That, I thought, is me. [...]
I Don’t Buy It
Image credit: Photo by lamazone on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons The Junky's Wife recently posted about an article that's been doing its wildfire dance through the Internet. It passed through my inbox several times as girlfriend after girlfriend blasted it out to everyone in their address books until I got the creepy feeling that [...]
Still Alive
Image credit: Photo by jcoterhals on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons After posting almost daily for over two years, I have taken my longest ever break from my space here. I have posted a few things recently at The Second Road, but have yet to link to them from here. I just figured I'd pop [...]
Honesty Is the Best Policy
"It is confusing to be in relationships and not know where we stand... We have a right to be direct about how we define the relationship — what we want it to be. But relationships equal two people who have equal rights. The other person needs to be able to define the relationship to. We [...]
