When talking about my own codependency, one of my favorite tongue-in-cheek lines (which came out of a recovery group I'm in) is: "I'll work harder!  I'll do better!  Please love me!"  Whether I forgot a birthday, miss a deadline, stick my foot squarely into my mouth (or sometimes my keyboard, as the case may be) or am otherwise imperfect, I'll quip (often internally), "Oh no!  I'll work harder!  I'll do better!  Please love me!"

So imagine my surprise when I flipped a my copy of recovery writing queen Melody Beattie's The Language of Letting Go open to a random page today and saw (in italics, under the heading "Letting Go of Old Beliefs"): "Try harder. Do better. Be perfect."  Hmm.  Sound familiar?

I think there can be only one explanation, considering that the book was published in 1990: Melody Beattie is a time traveler.  She time traveled forward to the 21st century, eavesdropped on my group, thought "now there's a great idea for my book!" and then time traveled back to write it.  Either that or we codies all have something in common when it comes to being crazy-ass perfectionists.  But nah.  That couldn't be, could it?