Comments on: When Yelling Works http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/11/when-yelling-works/ Tue, 10 Apr 2012 03:24:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Yvonne http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/11/when-yelling-works/comment-page-1/#comment-6613 Yvonne Fri, 13 Nov 2009 19:18:58 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/?p=2091#comment-6613 Parenting takes common sense and common sense dictates that sometimes you have to yell in order to quickly and effectively get your point across. I stopped reading parenting magazines some years ago because of articles like that one. I swear, they write about "the new parenting" one month and two months later, when you've finally learned that one, they print an altogether new "new parenting." Just keep doing what you are doing. We grow as parents as our kids grow as people. We can't possibly have all the techniques and answers--no matter how well-read we are--until we are faced with the situations that require them. Parenting takes common sense and common sense dictates that sometimes you have to yell in order to quickly and effectively get your point across. I stopped reading parenting magazines some years ago because of articles like that one. I swear, they write about "the new parenting" one month and two months later, when you've finally learned that one, they print an altogether new "new parenting."

Just keep doing what you are doing. We grow as parents as our kids grow as people. We can't possibly have all the techniques and answers--no matter how well-read we are--until we are faced with the situations that require them.

]]> By: Lise in NJ http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/11/when-yelling-works/comment-page-1/#comment-6612 Lise in NJ Fri, 13 Nov 2009 16:36:34 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/?p=2091#comment-6612 Declaring yelling to be the new spanking -- sigh. it's the sort of pronouncement that journalists need to come up with to stir the pot and keep us feeling guilty. Sounds like you had to do something abrupt in that moment to keep one or more kids from getting hurt; also to get Janie's attention. After all, being the voice of reason was not working in that moment and hey NYT?? sometimes it doesn't with little kids and you need to reset the registers. so, it's not chronic and it's not abusive, if it's how you typically treat your kids. sounds more like exactly what the situation called for. and I'm glad everybody is ok. Declaring yelling to be the new spanking -- sigh. it's the sort of pronouncement that journalists need to come up with to stir the pot and keep us feeling guilty. Sounds like you had to do something abrupt in that moment to keep one or more kids from getting hurt; also to get Janie's attention. After all, being the voice of reason was not working in that moment and hey NYT?? sometimes it doesn't with little kids and you need to reset the registers.

so, it's not chronic and it's not abusive, if it's how you typically treat your kids. sounds more like exactly what the situation called for.

and I'm glad everybody is ok.

]]> By: Cate Subrosa http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/11/when-yelling-works/comment-page-1/#comment-6611 Cate Subrosa Fri, 13 Nov 2009 10:46:43 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/?p=2091#comment-6611 I've missed your blog. It's so real and heart-warming. And LOL at Sunny! I've missed your blog. It's so real and heart-warming. And LOL at Sunny!

]]> By: Sunny http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/11/when-yelling-works/comment-page-1/#comment-6610 Sunny Fri, 13 Nov 2009 03:23:08 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/?p=2091#comment-6610 Duct Tape is the new time out Duct Tape is the new time out

]]> By: Tanya @ TeenAutism http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/11/when-yelling-works/comment-page-1/#comment-6607 Tanya @ TeenAutism Thu, 12 Nov 2009 22:31:15 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/?p=2091#comment-6607 I like to think of myself as a reformed yeller, although there are definitely situations where it's justifiable, as your story illustrated. I like to think of myself as a reformed yeller, although there are definitely situations where it's justifiable, as your story illustrated.

]]> By: Karen Maezen Miller http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/11/when-yelling-works/comment-page-1/#comment-6606 Karen Maezen Miller Thu, 12 Nov 2009 21:51:41 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/?p=2091#comment-6606 Duct tape is the new (fill in the blank and you're a journalist.) Duct tape is the new (fill in the blank and you're a journalist.)

]]> By: mimbles http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/11/when-yelling-works/comment-page-1/#comment-6605 mimbles Thu, 12 Nov 2009 21:14:34 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/?p=2091#comment-6605 I yell. I'd prefer not to but when I've said something ten times in a normal voice to absolutely no effect whatsoever there doesn't seem to be any other practical alternative ;-) Yesterday, when I'd asked my boys repeatedly to go and do their homework and eventually bellowed at them to "DO IT NOW!" Tom made some kind of protest at being yelled at and David said to "No, it's fair enough, she had asked us lots of times." *sigh* Maybe I should save time and just go straight to the bellow next time! I yell. I'd prefer not to but when I've said something ten times in a normal voice to absolutely no effect whatsoever there doesn't seem to be any other practical alternative ;-)

Yesterday, when I'd asked my boys repeatedly to go and do their homework and eventually bellowed at them to "DO IT NOW!" Tom made some kind of protest at being yelled at and David said to "No, it's fair enough, she had asked us lots of times." *sigh* Maybe I should save time and just go straight to the bellow next time!

]]> By: cat http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/11/when-yelling-works/comment-page-1/#comment-6604 cat Thu, 12 Nov 2009 20:46:23 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/?p=2091#comment-6604 I love Duct tape! :P Glad Austin is OK. I love Duct tape!
:P
Glad Austin is OK.

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