Comments on: Acting As If http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/12/acting-as-if/ Tue, 10 Apr 2012 03:24:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: unreliable narrator http://aroomofmamasown.com/2009/12/acting-as-if/comment-page-1/#comment-7299 unreliable narrator Tue, 23 Mar 2010 18:16:47 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/?p=2216#comment-7299 Yep, that last paragraph pretty much nails it: "The way that I need to respond to her is the same in either case. It's not okay for me and for my own recovery to take care of her or try to control her, whether or not she's 'really' an alcoholic." It's just so weird to me that I keep coming to this same conclusion over...and over...and over...and over. But then the next day I wake up and I'm all big-eyed: OMG is he an addict!? maybe he's not! maybe I'm "just" crizazy! etc. It's kind of hilarious...in an extremely non-hilarious way. :o) L'anywhoodle thanks for the link! (Oh, and do you know that famously unclear Big Book passage about the "heavy drinker" versus the alcoholic? I'll have to find it for you...I think Bill and Bob are being rhetorical, trying to get "real" alcoholics to start on the Step One process by admitting first that they might "just" be "heavy drinkers." But in general their "taxonomy" of drinkers always amuses me.) (And also I love the way Al-Anon puts it: "Do you have a problem with someone else's drinking?" Which, you know. Takes it off of them and puts it right square uncomfortable-like, back onto you. I mean, onto me.) Yep, that last paragraph pretty much nails it: "The way that I need to respond to her is the same in either case. It's not okay for me and for my own recovery to take care of her or try to control her, whether or not she's 'really' an alcoholic."

It's just so weird to me that I keep coming to this same conclusion over...and over...and over...and over. But then the next day I wake up and I'm all big-eyed: OMG is he an addict!? maybe he's not! maybe I'm "just" crizazy! etc. It's kind of hilarious...in an extremely non-hilarious way. :o )

L'anywhoodle thanks for the link! (Oh, and do you know that famously unclear Big Book passage about the "heavy drinker" versus the alcoholic? I'll have to find it for you...I think Bill and Bob are being rhetorical, trying to get "real" alcoholics to start on the Step One process by admitting first that they might "just" be "heavy drinkers." But in general their "taxonomy" of drinkers always amuses me.) (And also I love the way Al-Anon puts it: "Do you have a problem with someone else's drinking?" Which, you know. Takes it off of them and puts it right square uncomfortable-like, back onto you. I mean, onto me.)

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