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Posts from ‘January, 2010’
Slogans
Image credit: Photo by Darwin Bell on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons A friend called me last night. She's in the midst of some very messy office politics at work. She thinks her coworkers are being difficult. They think she's being unreasonable. Her boss thinks they're all wrong and they all think the boss is [...]
That’s Not My Experience
Image credit: Photo by Martin_Heigan on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Years ago, I met a woman who, when she was disagreeing with her partner, would tell him, "That's not my reality." She had a way of saying it that implied there was a real Reality (hers) and some alternate Crazytown Reality (his). You had [...]
Diagnosing Sex Addiction (Or Not)
Image credit: Photo by deadstar 2.0 on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons This morning, Alix at The Second Road forwarded me a link to an article about sex addiction by psychologist Michael Bader. When I saw the title ("Sex Addiction: A B.S. Excuse for Not Thinking"), I almost didn't click through (the whole "excuse" thing [...]
Sleepy Haikus for My Baby Girl
"Mama, I can't sleep. Can you breathe me to sleep, please?" "Ok, close your eyes..." "Breathe in sleep, out cares. Breathe in soft starlight, out sun. Float on breath to dreams." "Each breath is a gift, a wave lapping slumber's shore, gently lulling you." Dark lashes lie still, small hands unfold like petals, and sleep [...]
How to Change Anyone!
I was browsing around Target the other day, when I came across the most fabulous book I have seen in a long, long time: How to Change Someone You Love: Four Steps to Help You Help Them. I laughed the kind of laugh that ought to have sent flocks of birds scattering in alarm. Instead [...]
Me, Talking to Myself, About Me
Image credit: Photo by melody_nelson_ on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons "We should write a book," Mark said. "We can't be the only people who have struggled through all this and I think we have a lot we could offer to other people in sharing our journey." This was a few years ago, back before [...]
Zen and the Art of Perfectionism
Image credit: Photo by h.koppdelaney on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Last week, I was sitting cross-legged on my plump little black cushion on the floor of the Zendo I visit regularly and listening to a talk about cleaning incense burners. And as I listened, the very deep and profound thought that came to me [...]
Martin Luther King Jr. and Recovery
Image credit: Photo by *_Abhi_* on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I was reading over some of the words of Martin Luther King Jr. today, and came across some that reminded me very much of something I used to repeat to myself and my husband in the wake of disclosure of his sex addiction: "There [...]
How Austen Convinced Me Torture Doesn’t Work
Image credit: Photo by ...-Wink-... on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons "How did you know?" my son Austen asked. "Know what, buddy?" I asked. We had been talking about how a particular connector fit into a particular slot. This, along with batteries and speakers, is a particular fascination of Austen's lately. When we were watching [...]
