Comments on: Codependence Is the Mother of Invention http://aroomofmamasown.com/2010/01/codependence-is-the-mother-of-invention/ Tue, 10 Jan 2012 01:04:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: c http://aroomofmamasown.com/2010/01/codependence-is-the-mother-of-invention/comment-page-1/#comment-6797 c Tue, 05 Jan 2010 16:48:02 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/?p=2278#comment-6797 A therapist actually mentioned this wig and being "anyone in bed" idea. One who treats addicted couples. Not that she was saying it's a "should" but that a couple who has open communication and healthy intimacy in bed can do anything. I love the idea of the thomas edison of co-dependence... And the reminder that the addiction is not about the families. It's hard to remember, understand or believe that, at least for me. It does seem one would willingly have to push aside all of these people with intent. It's more the drive to fill the compulsion is so much stronger than any other drive. Always enjoy your writing and insights and honesty and humor. c A therapist actually mentioned this wig and being "anyone in bed" idea. One who treats addicted couples. Not that she was saying it's a "should" but that a couple who has open communication and healthy intimacy in bed can do anything. I love the idea of the thomas edison of co-dependence... And the reminder that the addiction is not about the families. It's hard to remember, understand or believe that, at least for me. It does seem one would willingly have to push aside all of these people with intent. It's more the drive to fill the compulsion is so much stronger than any other drive. Always enjoy your writing and insights and honesty and humor. c

]]> By: excavator http://aroomofmamasown.com/2010/01/codependence-is-the-mother-of-invention/comment-page-1/#comment-6796 excavator Tue, 05 Jan 2010 14:35:25 +0000 http://aroomofmamasown.com/?p=2278#comment-6796 That was a really interesting post. I'm going to have to go read your post on "What Is Codependence", because I have a sense that there is a deeper understanding to be had. But I do get a clear sense that it has to do with the desire to manage one's own anxiety by trying to control the behavior of someone else--or maybe that's just a feature of codependence. Because in the sense I just mentioned, the other person doesn't even have to be an addict? Thanks for this. That was a really interesting post. I'm going to have to go read your post on "What Is Codependence", because I have a sense that there is a deeper understanding to be had.

But I do get a clear sense that it has to do with the desire to manage one's own anxiety by trying to control the behavior of someone else--or maybe that's just a feature of codependence. Because in the sense I just mentioned, the other person doesn't even have to be an addict?

Thanks for this.

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