Comments on: How Austen Convinced Me Torture Doesn’t Work

By: shell

shell — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 23:06:09 +0000

My son, who's 7 and has HFA, is very similiar! We have many such conversations which can quickly escalate to yelling and/or a meltdown. But it is improving. I NEVER regret having my children. I am sad and frustrated; however, when life is so hard for the little things secondary to ASD.

Thank for writing - it helps:)

By: Syd

Syd — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 14:38:17 +0000

You have a lot of patience. But reading this made me glad that I don't have any children.

By: excavator

excavator — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 15:24:26 +0000

I, too, have a child who pays much more attention to what I say than I do, especially when my other child is talking to me at the same time and I'm doing something else... And then I get caught out being half-assed with a question and I can't quite remember what it was we were just talking about. I followed your link to the column (can't remember the columnist's name, even though I was just looking at it) and will think some more about that. Maybe that's part of what seems dissonant to me in our culture...the 'right' vs the 'true'. Anyway, I appreciate your sharing your story on what would have been a very stuck situation for me. Even when stuck, sometimes the answer is right in front of us, as you saw when you looked down at the meal you were preparing. I'm hoping to get better at seeing the solution instead of the stuckness. Your book recommendations are beside me as I write. I've read most of Temple Grandin's books, but this is a new title to me. Is it new? I can't read her without learning something new, and true.

By: mosey along

mosey along — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 07:30:02 +0000

Good lord this post made me so tense. I'm so glad the answer was ultimately acceptable to Austin, and I sure hope that teacher you had isn't teaching anymore. What a pill.