Comments on: Stillness

By: fi0na

fi0na — Tue, 03 Aug 2010 20:39:21 +0000

I've had that same thought about indoor vs outdoor work. In the "domestic economy" between Neil and I (enforced by him) yard work was mans work and the indoor stuff was mine, but I did come to realize when I mowed the lawn unlike cleaning the toilet, or picking food out of the plughole...

(1) It blocked out any discussion with the family
(2) when it was done it stayed done for a week
(3) i got fresh air and exercise whilst doing it, and got to commune with Nature

By: Syd

Syd — Sun, 01 Aug 2010 13:14:16 +0000

Letting go is a good thing. I threw away the to do lists several years ago and have never looked back.

By: Woman.Anonymous7

Woman.Anonymous7 — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 05:02:21 +0000

Yes. Nothing to complete. Nothing to earn or to prove. Breathe and surrender.

Oh, for such moments!

By: Jayne Dough

Jayne Dough — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 06:34:58 +0000

I, too, have found a life long pattern of feeling like I have to be productive. In many ways this ever-present drive to produce has served me well: for example, I'm quite the self-motivated self-starter when it comes to recovery & service work and as an employee I don't waste company time: I am very productive. However, I've had occasion to recognize that underlying this trait is the shame core belief that I don't deserve to just BE. That may be enough for other people, but I am so uniquely bad/ unworthy/ inadequate/ unlovable/ wrong for simply existing that I need to work towards earning justification for my mere presence here. It's like the fact that I suck air on the planet, by definition, puts me in debt and I am compelled to repay that debt by not just sitting and being. For me, that has been a sobering realization: the depth, solidity, firmly grounded and all encompassing position of my shame core. (Guess that's why they call it "core.") Like most manifestations of the shame core, it lies to me. It says sitting still, noticing the magnificent world around me, being still, calming down, rejuvenating, and reconnecting with my spiritual core is bad when actually it's good and very important. I'd call this exhibit #35 why in some ways 12 Step culture is healthier than American culture. The phrase that has encapsulated this idea for me recently has been "Even God took a day off!" I may or may not believe in Christianity, specifically, but the spirit of the idea works well for me right now.

By: Hope

Hope — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 14:02:41 +0000

Dearest one and I sat outside yesterday for a bit. It was lovely. It refreshes me.
I like outside work better than inside work for exactly the reason you stated.
Mowing the lawn is so satisfying.

By: Mary Ann

Mary Ann — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 11:36:33 +0000

I'm glad you had a few extra relaxing moments.

xox

By: Yvonne

Yvonne — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 18:28:59 +0000

Yo dude, my colon smiley face turned into an actual smiley face, how the heck did that happen????? I'm out of the loop, didn't know that was possible.

By: Yvonne

Yvonne — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 18:25:27 +0000

I used to fly to my notebook or computer each time I thought something "great." You know I just had to get it down otherwise it would be lost forever. LOL! I've found that few thoughts are truly lost forever that is if they were worth writing down in the first place.

I have also found that I can write more fully about an experience if I stay in the moment and not break it off half- enjoyed. I'm glad you shared this one with us, good reminder.

p.s. Nice to see you around these parts, stranger

By: Karen Maezen Miller

Karen Maezen Miller — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 00:04:26 +0000

And to remind me, too.