I was browsing around Target the other day, when I came across the most fabulous book I have seen in a long, long time: How to Change Someone You Love: Four Steps to Help You Help Them. I laughed the kind of laugh that ought to have sent flocks of birds scattering in alarm. Instead [...]
Posts under ‘12 step’
A Different World
Image credit: Photo by evilnick on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Our family keeps a pretty rigorous schedule, with nearly every night of the week blocked out for some activity or another, but rather than shuttling between soccer games and dance practice, like many parents in our social group, we're shuttling between different 12 Step [...]
Love at First Sight
Image credit: Photo by marimoon on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I remember the first time I ever saw my husband; I even remember what he was wearing. It was our first week of college, and he was standing in line behind me, wearing Coke bottle glasses, a white, retro (to put it kindly), marching [...]
Not Alone
Image credit: Photo by Viqi French Licensed under Creative Commons My 12 Step group had some difficulty recently around a reading that listed some of the behaviors partners of sex addicts might have in common. Many of the women in the group found it triggering, because they felt the list of characteristics implied there was [...]
Flash Forward
Always a sucker for both science fiction and anything vaguely related to time travel, this season I've started watching ABC's new series, Flash Forward. The premise of the show is that everyone on Earth simultaneously loses consciousness for approximately two minutes and sees visions of a few minutes of their lives six months in the [...]
Fear
Image credit: Photo by stuant63 Licensed under Creative Commons I've been working through the 12 Steps again, more slowly this time than my last time through. This week, I worked through an exercise where I looked at patterns of compulsive behavior in my life and I was struck (again) by how powerfully my life is [...]
Al-Anon: The Made-for-TV Movie
A few days ago, The Junky's Wife sent me an e-mail with the subject line "Lois Movie!" (Yes, I am shamelessly piggybacking on JW's superior recovery research skills and pop culture knowledge.) Now for most people, that might imply that a new Superman film is coming out. After all, in spite of the fact that [...]
My Denial
Image credit: Photo by mon of the loin on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When I first found out that my husband Mark was a sex addict, I threw myself into the thing that had always saved me in the past: research. I had graduated at the top of my high school class, gone to [...]
Cutting Past the Crap
Image credit: Photo by misterbisson on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I went to a great 12 Step meeting this week. A lovely group of women, some of whom I'd never met, sat together and shared the kind of things we usually share as partners of sex addicts. We share about things like incest, physically [...]
When You Have a Hammer, Everything Looks Like a Nail
Image credit: Art by [ Leah ] on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons My husband Mark and I may be spending too much time talking about issues related to addiction and recovery, as it has lead to a series of double takes in recent years... A friend told me that a computer geek she works [...]
