Image credit: Photo by weesen on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Yesterday, I took my kids out to the park and watched my son, long and lanky, swing his way to the top of a climbing structure formed from a maze of ropes. Like many autistic individuals, mastering motor skills can be a challenge for [...]
Posts under ‘acceptance’
Being Where I Am
Image credit: Art by cjelli on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Five months ago, after a four and a half year hiatus, I once again started attending a 12 Step group for partners of sex addicts. I had just finished working the Steps with an online group and my intention was to join the group [...]
The Wisdom to Know the Difference
Image credit: Photo by Ron Layters on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons A month or so ago, I did something I dread and despise: I took a trip on an airplane. When I fly, the joy is entirely in the destination and not at all in the journey. The flight fills me with terror: terror [...]
Confessions of a Bad Mother
Image credit: Photo by Jill Greenseth on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I have a secret. I have been grieving over my children since, at times, before they were even born. Now that's not the way it's supposed to be, is it? I'm a mama, and mamas are supposed to be joy and love and [...]
Teaching Myself to Parent in Recovery
Image credit: Photo by Laura Burlton on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When my daughter was about a year old -- not yet able to talk or to walk across a room without plopping on her bottom -- I was out grocery shopping with her. By the end of the (too long) trip, she was [...]
Grief and Recovery
Image credit: Photo by Creativity+ Timothy K Hamilton on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When I first found out about my husband's sex addiction, a therapist suggested that I go to a grief support group. The suggestion felt so uncomfortable to me that I never did follow through on it. I thought, "How are these [...]
Words on the Bathroom Wall
Image credit: Photo by Malingering on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons The women's restroom in the basement of the Student Union was everything I dreamed college would be. The first time I used it, taking a tour of campus before my freshman year, I fell in love. At a glance, there wasn't much to love: [...]
The Not Done List
Image credit: Photo by ^Sandra^ on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I had a really wonderful, productive day yesterday. I got the kids fed and clothed and to school on time. While they were in school, I: did all the dishes washed and dried a load of laundry got some good writing work done meditated [...]
Couples Counseling for Everyone (or Not)
Image courtesy of tombstonebuilder.com A few years ago, a friend of mine got a divorce. About a year before the divorce, she took a one year work assignment that involved lots of travel. She and her husband would spend months apart, and the stress of separation caused fractures to appear in all the little weak [...]
The End of a Long Week
And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. ...unless I accept life completely on life's terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes. ~Alcoholics Anonymous (The Big [...]
