Image credit: Photo by Great Beyond on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Earlier this year, I read an article about technology that would allow us to record and store every moment of our lives. Imagine: our whole lives stored in a single searchable archive. We could settle those arguments with the boss by replaying what [...]
Posts under ‘acting out’
Starbucks
Image credit: Photo by brownpau on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Just days before I discovered my husband Mark's sex addiction, we were shopping in Target, when we passed a young woman. "Hi, Mark!" she chimed, smiling brightly. Then she turned to her shopping companion, a man who was glowering at Mark, and said, "Jimmy, [...]
My Muse
Image credit: Photo by Ape Lad on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons "You know," joked my husband Mark, "I think you ought to be paying me royalties. You wouldn't have anything to write about without me..." "I know. It's true. That's the sad life of a codependent. My problem is being all wrapped up in [...]
Business Trip Phobia
Image credit: Photo by sweetteaindahouse on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I fear business trips. But it's not my own business trips I fear — as a mom who left corporate work behind some nine years ago, I don't get those myself anymore — it's my husband's. When Mark was active in his sex addiction, [...]
Cyberstalking Syndrome by Proxy
Image credit: Photo by Corie Howell on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I have spent my share of time cyberstalking the women my husband has acted out with. (Hey, I'm codependent; I'm really, really good at focusing on people who aren't me.) And I'm not alone. Focusing on and obsessing about the activities of acting [...]
It’s Not About Sex
Image credit: Photo by Leo Reynolds on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons With the story of South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford's week-long disappearance to visit his mistress in Argentina buzzing about, we're faced yet again with a barrage of images of a public figure tearfully apologizing for his infidelity, while his job hangs in jeopardy.* [...]
Scary Sex Addicts
There is so much wrong with this story, I don't even know where to start... Gentle Path linked to a story about an "investigative report" in which a reporter burst into a closed Sexaholics Anonymous (SA) meeting, cameras rolling, to attempt to interview group members. The only version of the report publicly available is one [...]
Warning: Use of this Company Name May Be Triggering
Image credit: Photo by Ben Gertzfield on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I attend a weekly 12 Step meeting for friends and family members of sex addicts, and part of our meeting script asks that group members refrain from mentioning specific company names or websites in their shares to avoid triggering others. Whenever I hear [...]
Disclosure
Image credit: Photo by Duo de Hale on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When I found out about my husband's sex addiction, I spent weeks ripping every last Who and Where and What and How Often out of him. While he was at work, I'd make lists of questions and then keep him up late [...]
It Doesn’t Matter
Image credit: Photo by lapidim on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons My husband and I left the kids with a babysitter and went out on a date last night. Mark had a work crisis he wanted to deal with before leaving the office, so to save time, I decided to meet him there rather than [...]
