Image credit: Photo by ashley.adcox on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons "Do you remember what you said to me when I first started talking about God?" Mark asked the other day, "You said, 'I am willing to try to work through this sex addiction crap, but if you ever become a Christian, I swear, I [...]
Posts under ‘change’
Sharing the Silence
Image credit: Art by zedzap on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Like many people, I walked into my first 12 Step meeting never expecting to wind up there, with no clue what to expect other than what Hollywood had taught me (which I soon learned was nothing accurate). The meetings I first started attending were [...]
In Which I Wish Addiction (and Recovery) on the World
Image credit: Photo by JustinLowery.com on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons This weekend, for the first time in my life, I had the opportunity to hear a sex addict from my husband's recovery group speaking about his experiences. I know my husband's story, about as intimately as anyone else can; in a way, it's my [...]
Filling the Void
Image credit: Photo by Thomas Hawk on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Earlier this month, Jason at The Second Road linked to an article by Nina Caplan, a writer who shares her experience of going without alcohol for a month. What struck me in reading her piece was how boring she found life without alcohol. [...]
The Geographic Cure
"The only consistent feature in all of your dissatisfying relationships is you." despair.com Early in recovery, I struggled with the notion that the geographic cure -- trying to fix my life with a move to a new home, a new job or a new relationship -- is a fallacy. I know that I bring my [...]
Not the First Step
Image credit: Photo by 365bunnies on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Today I went to an event that included a reception beforehand with light refreshments and crowds of people I didn't know. While years of recovery work has me better equipped to step outside my usual comfort zone, these situations remain challenging for my introverted [...]
Wearing Away the Stone
Image credit: Photo by lfaisco on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons As I was brushing my hair recently, I noticed a few strands of gray. My mother's hair seemed to turn white nearly overnight in her late forties. She said it was the grief of losing two close family members within less than a year [...]
Lots of Problems, Just One Solution
Image credit: Photo by moonjazz on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When Mark first started in recovery, he used to get frustrated with his sponsor, because no matter what the problem was, his sponsor always had the same answer, "Work the Steps." "I'm angry at my wife." Work the Steps. "I'm struggling with a flirtatious [...]
Progress
Image credit: Photo by Nick Humphries on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I've found that holidays are the mile markers in my life's highway. As I pass them, I can say: last year I was there, this year I'm someplace else. I can take stock of what's different and what's remained the same. And this [...]
Dark Corners
Image credit: Photo by kuyman on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Somehow it's never spring that spurs me to great acts of cleaning and home renovation; it's this time of year. December and January seem to be my favorite months for tearing apart the inside of my home. Spring seems to be my favorite time [...]
