Image credit: Photo by the italian Jonathan on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons A few days ago, a columnist I generally like wrote a satirical piece on sex addiction rehab (one I won't link to here, due to its triggering nature). He's a liberal columnist, so the comments were populated with lots of LOLs and [...]
Posts under ‘codependence’
Haiku from my Teen Diary – June 9, 1986
That must be heaven. A place you can be yourself and not be afraid.
A Letter from my Past Self
Image credit: Photo by Deltasly on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Memory is notoriously unreliable: we leave out some details and enhance others; we rewrite old understandings based on what we currently know; we simply forget. I've written about most of the incidents in this blog from memory, even those few events I do have [...]
I Told You So
Image credit: Photo by Pink Sherbet Photography on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons "I bet anything she's pregnant," said Mark as we left a get together with friends in the years long before recovery. Having been through a pregnancy recently ourselves at that point, we knew what to look for: the change in eating habits, [...]
Golden Years
Image credit: Photo by Travis Jon Allison on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons "I don't like Agnes much," said my mother, "She's definitely no Aunt Gerty. But it's because Gerty was so wonderful that I think Uncle Fred is marrying Agnes." "What do you mean?" I asked. Uncle Fred and Aunt Gerty had been married [...]
A Sketch of Denial
Image credit: Photo by chandrika221 on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons There are certain moments in my life that I come back to, over and over, the way Monet came back to his waterlilies: trying to capture the way they look at just this moment, from just this perspective, in just this light. The moment [...]
Slogans
Image credit: Photo by Darwin Bell on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons A friend called me last night. She's in the midst of some very messy office politics at work. She thinks her coworkers are being difficult. They think she's being unreasonable. Her boss thinks they're all wrong and they all think the boss is [...]
How to Change Anyone!
I was browsing around Target the other day, when I came across the most fabulous book I have seen in a long, long time: How to Change Someone You Love: Four Steps to Help You Help Them. I laughed the kind of laugh that ought to have sent flocks of birds scattering in alarm. Instead [...]
Martin Luther King Jr. and Recovery
Image credit: Photo by *_Abhi_* on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I was reading over some of the words of Martin Luther King Jr. today, and came across some that reminded me very much of something I used to repeat to myself and my husband in the wake of disclosure of his sex addiction: "There [...]
Busting my Grocery Bag
Image credit: Photo by fixlr on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons My husband Mark cannot take care of himself. Really, the man cannot even keep track of what he likes. I have to do it for him. I present as evidence the last few weeks of grocery shopping. Last week, Mark was sick, and I [...]
