Image credit: Photo by Express Monorail on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons In the dream, I was driving on a highway laid out like silver thread between my home and the nearest big city. My husband was seated next to me, smiling, and I could feel the kids safely at home, laughing with their babysitter. [...]
Posts under ‘control’
Prayer
Image credit: Photo by the italian Jonathan on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons A few days ago, a columnist I generally like wrote a satirical piece on sex addiction rehab (one I won't link to here, due to its triggering nature). He's a liberal columnist, so the comments were populated with lots of LOLs and [...]
Not Practicing These Principles
Image credit: Photo by "T"eresa on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons So, I found out last week (much to my disappointment) that I am not the Ultimate Ruler of the Universe. In fact, I'm not even a competent Ultimate Ruler of Me. Maybe some of you knew that already. Actually, I knew that already, but [...]
Codependence Is the Mother of Invention
Before I knew my husband was a sex addict, I knew that he liked flirting with other women. Probably a little too much. I could tell he got a thrill out of it, and I worried that he would accidentally take this "entertainment" too far. He'd lead some poor woman on and she'd get aggressive [...]
A Very Codependent Christmas
Image credit: Photo by Jon Curnow on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Last night my husband Mark and I stayed up past midnight finalizing the details of our Christmas budget and to do list. We divided up the errands and agreed on which of us would buy for whom and how much money we would [...]
One of Those Days
Image credit: Photo by k a t m Licensed under Creative Commons I sort of want to write a post today, but I sort of want to curl up under a blanket and watch the leaves fall more. Of course, I say that, all romantic, with this great image of myself curled up with a [...]
My Denial
Image credit: Photo by mon of the loin on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When I first found out that my husband Mark was a sex addict, I threw myself into the thing that had always saved me in the past: research. I had graduated at the top of my high school class, gone to [...]
No, my Will, Not God’s Will!
Image credit: Photo by colinwhite on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Years ago, I read The Dilbert Future by Scott Adams, creator of the Dilbert comic strip, and was especially fascinated by his use of affirmations to focus on his goals and achieve success. I even tried the technique myself and found the process of [...]
Worry Brain
Image credit: Art by hellvet2000 on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons "Worry Brain, your mama's so ugly, she makes onions cry!" I found myself saying after I got off the phone with my husband. I had to hang up the phone because I'd burst into tears, and now I was trying to beat back the [...]
The Once Proud Slob
Image credit: Photo by alvi2047 on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I used to love to watch The Odd Couple on TV growing up. I always hated Felix, so prissy and uptight, but I loved Oscar, unable to find his bed under piles of clothes and bits of old sandwiches. That, I thought, is me. [...]
