Image credit: Art by Rob Sheridan on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Years ago, before I knew about my husband's sex addiction, one of the things that drew me to him, that I really liked and respected about him, was how he seemed to have broken away from the pattern of addiction and dysfunction in [...]
Posts under ‘core beliefs’
What Are You Going to Do Now?
Image credit: Photo by Frank Peters on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I shared in a meeting recently about my fear around my husband's business trips and how that fear is a reminder to me to connect with my Higher Power. After the meeting a newcomer asked me what I'm going to do now: I [...]
This Isn’t About Jon and Kate
At some point in the last year, a friend's Facebook status referred to something called "Jon and Kate Plus 8." Disconnected as I am from pop culture, I had to google the term to figure out what she was talking about. (And then I had to google "Bradley Whitford and Jane Kaczmarek" when another friend [...]
Learning to Say No
I am getting better at saying no, when I mean no, but it's still an area where I have a lot of work to do. Saying "yes" to requests is like a reflex to me. Tap my knee and my foot bounces up, ask me for help and I say, "Yes." Oops. Wait. Let me [...]
False Talismans
Image credit: Photo by Alé on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I took myself out to lunch today. Nothing fancy, just a fast food place. I was appropriately decked out for the occasion in my classy mom gear: a battered old college sweatshirt. The man waiting on me looked, I thought, older than I am. [...]
Dry Codie
Image credit: Photo by Vu Bui on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Many years ago, I was in a relationship that was extremely dysfunctional and unhealthy for me; so much so that my marriage to a sex addict has always (even at its absolute worst) seemed to me to be healthy by comparison. In that [...]
There’s Nothing Wrong with That
Image credit: Photo by Marty (S) on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I went out to dinner a few weeks ago with some old friends who were curious about my recent 12 Step work, having had no experience with 12 Step or recovery work themselves. I told them that I was finding the exercise of [...]
Points of View (a Prologue)
Photo credit: Photo by QwirkSilver on Flickr After the 2004 US presidential election, I was shocked and depressed. (Now, whether you agree with my politics or not, stay with me. As with so many things with me, it will all come back around.) I couldn't believe that after all of George W. Bush's dumbassery, after [...]
