Posts under ‘culture’

The Grocery Store Gamut

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One day, early in his recovery work around sex addiction, Mark and I were standing in line at the grocery store, when I commented on a headline on one of the news magazines.  "I can't look," Mark said.
"What?"
"It's not good for me.  Those magazine and tabloid covers [...]

Background Noise

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"The level of sexual imagery in modern life is astounding. I knew intuitively this was true, but when you tune into it, you just can't believe it. I click on the Yahoo! finance page, and there's this blond model in a low-cut dress looking [...]

Scary

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I rashly went out Halloween costume shopping a few days ago. I'm not sure what I was thinking. Well, I know I needed to pick up a costume for my daughter — Yes, a few days shy of Halloween. I'm totally on top of [...]

In Which I Teach my Daughter a Lesson

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It was true love, the moment I saw it.  I was bathed in light and heard angels singing (no, really, that wasn't just the glow for the screen and the background music for the ad).  There it was: The Beatles Rock Band, a video game that [...]

The Racial Issue

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"Mama, I'm half black, half white," Janie calls to me from where she's playing in the living room.
I'd been wondering when this day would come, the day when my biracial daughter would finally notice race and start talking about herself in racial terms. Before either of [...]

Lingerie, Sex Toys and Me?

Warning: this post, and the site I link to, may be triggering to sex addicts.

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A few weeks ago, I got an e-mail from a woman named Paula Saardchit. She told me she'd found my blog while doing research for an article she was writing on sex [...]

The Man in the Mirror

I roll my eyes as a cluster of neon clad girls buzz, "The way the sidewalk lights up as he walks is so cool! I love that song." Michael Jackson and that stupid Billie Jean video. Cool? Whatever. He's so overrated. I mean, if you wanted to talk about enduring cool, who could [...]

It’s Not About Sex

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With the story of South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford's week-long disappearance to visit his mistress in Argentina buzzing about, we're faced yet again with a barrage of images of a public figure tearfully apologizing for his infidelity, while his job hangs in jeopardy.* And in [...]

Scary Sex Addicts

There is so much wrong with this story, I don't even know where to start... Gentle Path linked to a story about an "investigative report" in which a reporter burst into a closed Sexaholics Anonymous (SA) meeting, cameras rolling, to attempt to interview group members. The only version of the report publicly available is one [...]

Review of The Sexually Confident Wife

When I received an e-mail from the publishers of The Sexually Confident Wife asking if I wanted to review it,* I was skeptical. After all, "sexual confidence" in our society usually implies acting like a porn star. I imagined a lot of Sexual Codependents' Magazine (ahem, I mean Cosmo Magazine) type fluff on [...]