Image credit: Photo by c@rljones on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When I first discovered my husband's addiction, I knew I was going to need healing from the pain and devastation I was facing, so I looked for support groups for partners. But I couldn't seem to find plain old support; all I could find [...]
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Dry Codie
Image credit: Photo by Vu Bui on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Many years ago, I was in a relationship that was extremely dysfunctional and unhealthy for me; so much so that my marriage to a sex addict has always (even at its absolute worst) seemed to me to be healthy by comparison. In that [...]
Grief and Recovery
Image credit: Photo by Creativity+ Timothy K Hamilton on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When I first found out about my husband's sex addiction, a therapist suggested that I go to a grief support group. The suggestion felt so uncomfortable to me that I never did follow through on it. I thought, "How are these [...]
The Right Tomorrow
Photo credit:Photo by H2O Alchemist I received an e-mail last week from Laurie, the woman whose suggestive e-mails to my husband around the time of our marriage I've referred to as the pebble in the pond. I've written about how those e-mail messages showed up on a disk again, a ripple in the water years [...]
Laughing, in a Spiritual Way
Photo credit: Photo bylightmatter on Flickr If you have ever been at a Billy Joel concert, you may have seen me. I'd have been the one belting out the lyrics to "Only the Good Die Young" with much intensity and gusto, reaching a feverish crescendo at the line "I'd rather laugh with the sinners than [...]
House, Hillary and an Honesty Oxymoron
You all know how the song goes: honesty is such a lonely word. Yep, and everyone is so untrue. Or to take us into the current century and an entirely different pop culture icon: Everyone lies. Tell me that you never lie, and like House, I'll tell you you're lying. Yet, if you're anything like [...]
Patterns
Image credit: Art by chwalker01 on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When I started attending 12 Step meetings to cope with my husband's sex addiction, I met many women who had been married multiple times, each time to an addict. One husband may have been an alcoholic, one might have been a drug addict, and [...]
Connecting the Dots
Finding Nemo is one of my three-year-old daughter's all time favorite movies, which means Mark and I have watched it about 4976 times now and have weaved it into the fabric of our lives. In one scene, Nemo's father, Marlin, is dragged to a 12 Step meeting held by some sharks, who are trying to [...]
