Image credit: Photo by Nick Humphries on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I've found that holidays are the mile markers in my life's highway. As I pass them, I can say: last year I was there, this year I'm someplace else. I can take stock of what's different and what's remained the same. And this [...]
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My Holiday Madness (and Balance)
It's after 10:30 p.m. Austen has the sniffles and is still awake. I'm waiting for him to settle down before I take a quick shower and catch up with Mark, who has been out with some 12 Step friends. The kids both have parties tomorrow (the last day of school before break), and I'm hoping [...]
Sorry!
Image credit: Photo byboxchain on Flickr(It's codie graffiti!) I tend to apologize for things. A lot. If things are going less than perfectly, if I'm less than perfect, it's hard for me to go 15 seconds without "I'm so sorry" slipping out. If you've met me in real life, you've almost certainly heard me apologize [...]
In Codpendents We Trust
This weekend, my husband and I were working through a stressful situation in our extended family: "I need to give this up," Mark said, "I'm trusting in my higher power, and I need to remember that other people have higher powers they can trust in too." "Damn," I said, "you're right, but I always forget [...]
Bottom
Photo credit: Photo bydavidteter on Flickr When I was a little girl, I had a best friend named Vickie. Together we played detective and watched Wonder Woman and chased the boys away from our favorite haunts on the elementary school playground and teased our pesky little brothers. Her little brother, Frank, was my brother Rob's [...]
Happy Loving Day
Photo credit:by Fazy on Flickrwith thanks to BizyLizyfor finding it first Today is Loving Day. Forty one years ago today, in the case of Loving v. Virginia, the U.S. Supreme Court passed down a unanimous decision legalizing interracial marriage. A little over thirty years after that decision, a black man and a white woman who [...]
Haikuing my Way into the Weekend Again
Already Friday.So many words unwritten.Where did the week go? A few days were lostto illness: all consumingeven when minor. Now everyone ishealthy in body. The mindneeds work, as always. I look forward toa weekend of sleep, writing,time with family. Hm, do you all sayfam-lee or fam-ih-lee? Oneruins the haiku. Enjoy your weekend.If we each find [...]
I’m Not Codependent, Shut Up!
When Mark admitted he was a sex addict, my life crumbled down around me. I don't know where I would have been without my son and the little life inside me that was growing to be my daughter. Maybe I would have laid on the ground and let the wreckage rain down on me. Maybe [...]
An Open Letter to my Mother
Dear Mom, If you are reading this, you have somehow found yourself at my blog. I always knew there was the potential for you to end up here, but I figured the odds were against it, and the work I've been doing is important enough that it seemed worth that small risk. Now that you [...]
I Desperately Crave and Loathe Attention*
When I was about eight years old, my wealthy older cousin sent me some of her hand-me-down clothing. I was at my grandmother's house when the boxes arrived, several of them, full of the fashionable oranges and browns, corduroy and polyester, bellbottoms and wide collars of the 70's. I was thrilled by all these "new" [...]
