Image credit: Photo by dvs on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons For some time I have been turning an idea for a novel around and around in my head... Oh, I know. Who doesn't want to write a novel, right? Nearly everyone who has luxuriated in the feel of taking pen to paper (or fingers [...]
Posts under ‘fantasy’
Killing Me Softly
Image credit: Photo by Estrella Esteve on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons "I can't hear this song without thinking of you," I said to Mark as The Cure's "Just Like Heaven" came on my music mix a few days ago. It reminded me of falling in love with him in college: how he made me [...]
Just Say No to Reading
Image credit: Photo by paulbence on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons "Where's the ketchup?" "Don't you remember?" asks Mark, a little exasperated. "We had this conversation," he says as he begins to describe it to me in elaborate details: all the full sentences I said to him in response to what he said to me [...]
The Trappings of Success
Image credit: Art by Rob Sheridan on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Years ago, before I knew about my husband's sex addiction, one of the things that drew me to him, that I really liked and respected about him, was how he seemed to have broken away from the pattern of addiction and dysfunction in [...]
Lingerie, Sex Toys and Me?
Warning: this post, and the site I link to, may be triggering to sex addicts. Image credit: Photo by kchbrown on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons A few weeks ago, I got an e-mail from a woman named Paula Saardchit. She told me she'd found my blog while doing research for an article she was [...]
The Man in the Mirror
I roll my eyes as a cluster of neon clad girls buzz, "The way the sidewalk lights up as he walks is so cool! I love that song." Michael Jackson and that stupid Billie Jean video. Cool? Whatever. He's so overrated. I mean, if you wanted to talk about enduring cool, who could really compete [...]
Recovery is Sexy
Image credit: Photo by Eternal ☼ Sunshine on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons It was raining the night I first kissed my husband. The wind was hissing and howling through the bare branches of the trees, rattling the last of the dead leaves still clinging to their posts. Before we kissed, we twined our hands [...]
Doubt
Image credit: Photo by Daniel Y. Go on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When my husband was still active in his sex addiction and I was still unaware of it, we lived our life (as many living with active addiction do) enveloped in fantasy. We frolicked inside a rainbow in a castle made of pink [...]
Sometimes
Image credit: Photo by monsieurlam on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I know what you're thinking, 'cause right now I'm thinking the same thing. Actually, I've been thinking it ever since I got here. Why, oh why didn't I take the blue pill? ~Cypher, in The Matrix I feel good about my recovery work and [...]
Halloween Past
Image credit: Photo byraster on FlickrLicensed under Creative Commons October 31 of 2003 was a hard day for me. I don't remember any longer what, specifically, was difficult about it, but I do know that told my husband, bitterly, as we climbed into bed that it had been a hard day. My son Austen was [...]
