Image credit: Photo by (((((i))))) (((((see))))) (((((you))))) on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons A few months ago, my husband and I sat in our car in an empty parking lot. We'd gotten the kids settled with a babysitter, although it had taken longer than usual, and had driven to a place we knew we could [...]
Posts under ‘healing’
Grief and Recovery
Image credit: Photo by Creativity+ Timothy K Hamilton on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When I first found out about my husband's sex addiction, a therapist suggested that I go to a grief support group. The suggestion felt so uncomfortable to me that I never did follow through on it. I thought, "How are these [...]
Short E-mail Exchange, Long Time to Get Here
Image credit: Photo by funtik.cat on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons The message inside reads: "God is the answer." from Mary Jones to Mark Jones subject Invitation to connect on LinkedIn This seems to be for you but came to me... ---------- Forwarded message ---------- From: Sue Smith To: Mary Jones Subject: Invitation to connect [...]
Dark Corners
Image credit: Photo by kuyman on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Somehow it's never spring that spurs me to great acts of cleaning and home renovation; it's this time of year. December and January seem to be my favorite months for tearing apart the inside of my home. Spring seems to be my favorite time [...]
Take a Chance on Me
Image credit: Photo by tealchic on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When my husband and I were first falling in love (ages and ages ago), I was dating someone else. I did to my ex-boyfriend what my husband would one day do to me: betrayed him in the worst way. Mark and I were friends, [...]
Burn, Baby, Burn
Image credit: Photo by alecani on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When Austen was a baby, a friend of my husband's gave him a stuffed camel, which she brought for him all the way from Israel. However, Austen never showed much interest in toys without wheels or numbers. The sole exception was a stuffed rabbit [...]
I Am Hillary Clinton
This post is the fifth in a series on how I came to be where I am around the current election,and the first in a series of posts about the candidates themselves. I fell in love with Hillary Clinton during the 1992 presidential election. I hadn't been out of college long and was just starting [...]
Review of The Sexually Confident Wife
When I received an e-mail from the publishers of The Sexually Confident Wife asking if I wanted to review it,* I was skeptical. After all, "sexual confidence" in our society usually implies acting like a porn star. I imagined a lot of Sexual Codependents' Magazine (ahem, I mean Cosmo Magazine) type fluff on "10 Sex [...]
Jesus Is my Ex*
Photo credit: Image byDonna62 on Flickr During my time in S-Anon, I met a woman named Sue.** Sue began attending 12 Step after discovering that her husband, Mike, was a sex addict and had spent their twenty years of marriage enmeshed in a double life that included porn, strip clubs and prostitution. Sue was angry [...]
The Right Tomorrow
Photo credit:Photo by H2O Alchemist I received an e-mail last week from Laurie, the woman whose suggestive e-mails to my husband around the time of our marriage I've referred to as the pebble in the pond. I've written about how those e-mail messages showed up on a disk again, a ripple in the water years [...]
