Image credit: Photo by limonada on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons A few years ago, I was visiting my friend Ellie and was a guest in her house for the first time in my life. I had just taken a shower and was standing in her bathroom, a wet towel in my hand, at a [...]
Posts under ‘I’ll work harder I’ll do better please love me’
The Trappings of Success
Image credit: Art by Rob Sheridan on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Years ago, before I knew about my husband's sex addiction, one of the things that drew me to him, that I really liked and respected about him, was how he seemed to have broken away from the pattern of addiction and dysfunction in [...]
Finding God Together
Image credit: Photo by ashley.adcox on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons "Do you remember what you said to me when I first started talking about God?" Mark asked the other day, "You said, 'I am willing to try to work through this sex addiction crap, but if you ever become a Christian, I swear, I [...]
Recovery is Sexy
Image credit: Photo by Eternal ☼ Sunshine on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons It was raining the night I first kissed my husband. The wind was hissing and howling through the bare branches of the trees, rattling the last of the dead leaves still clinging to their posts. Before we kissed, we twined our hands [...]
Being Where I Am
Image credit: Art by cjelli on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Five months ago, after a four and a half year hiatus, I once again started attending a 12 Step group for partners of sex addicts. I had just finished working the Steps with an online group and my intention was to join the group [...]
Dumped
Image credit: Photo by odedgal on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Austen's babysitter quit. On the one hand, I don't blame her. Austen has the ability to terrorize his babysitters in a way he does no one else except delivery people, to whom he is like a very loud and aggressive dog; he wants none [...]
Feeding the Emptiness
Image credit: Photo by Djuliet on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Many years ago, before we had children, my husband bought me a small fish tank for my birthday. At the time, I wanted a car. I didn't really think he could buy a car, but I was relying on a very iffy public transit [...]
The Power to Carry It Out
Comic courtesy of xkcd (I think this may be my favorite comic ever in the history of the world.) I (in my real life, pseudonymless state) have been participating recently in a book discussion with a group of friends online. And things have gotten heated. I have opinions. Other people have opinions. Other people have [...]
On the Golden Gate Bridge
Image credit: Photo by serdir (at home) on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I suspect crossing the Golden Gate Bridge must get tiresome for the folks who commute across it each day -- the traffic, the fog, the monotony of routine -- but I am not one of those people. I was in the San [...]
Gone Fishing (and Requesting Some Input)
Image credit: Photo by UpNorth Memories - Donald (Don) Harrison on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I'm going to be away this weekend on a very cool and long-awaited trip (a gift to me from a collection of loved ones). So (alas!) no haikus on Friday or Second Road posts this weekend (as you can [...]
