Image credit: Photo by onkel_wart on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Sometimes my subconscious likes to be really mysterious in its messages to me (so, why, exactly, did a frog hop on the big pink bubble gum bubble I was blowing?). Sometimes it likes to tell jokes. Sometimes it (like many a subconscious) likes to [...]
Posts under ‘I’m not codependent shut up’
What Would a Healthy Person Do?
Image credit: Photo by c@rljones on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When I first discovered my husband's addiction, I knew I was going to need healing from the pain and devastation I was facing, so I looked for support groups for partners. But I couldn't seem to find plain old support; all I could find [...]
Disclosure
Image credit: Photo by Duo de Hale on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When I found out about my husband's sex addiction, I spent weeks ripping every last Who and Where and What and How Often out of him. While he was at work, I'd make lists of questions and then keep him up late [...]
Dry Codie
Image credit: Photo by Vu Bui on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Many years ago, I was in a relationship that was extremely dysfunctional and unhealthy for me; so much so that my marriage to a sex addict has always (even at its absolute worst) seemed to me to be healthy by comparison. In that [...]
Updated Blogroll
Image credit: Photo by maher berro on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons My blogroll was long overdue for a makeover. As you all know, the rules are: comment regularly and ye shall be put on the blogroll. But oh, what a headache to keep track of all that myself! Enter a neat little piece of [...]
Us vs. Them
Image credit: Photo by tochis on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Back in the early days of my husband's recovery from sex addiction, the recovery world seemed to break down into two types of people: addicts and the rest of us who had been hurt by them. (And by the way, you couldn't call any [...]
Climbing the Last Few Steps
Image credit: Photo by Guille. on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I have had some mixed feelings recently around the 12 Step work I've been doing. I'm on Step 10 now, and I'm exhausted. And this is not the good kind of exhausted. It's not the "I've just had a great workout and I'm really [...]
No Promises
I've decided I'm taking today off from blogging. My daughter, Janie, has a dance performance today, I've got contractors coming tomorrow, and I'm working the steps with an online group and Step 1 has kicked my ass and left me emotionally drained. I'll get back with answers to your wonderful questions on Friday's post, um, [...]
