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One day, early in his recovery work around sex addiction, Mark and I were standing in line at the grocery store, when I commented on a headline on one of the news magazines. "I can't look," Mark said.
"What?"
"It's not good for me. Those magazine and tabloid covers [...]
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"I can't hear this song without thinking of you," I said to Mark as The Cure's "Just Like Heaven" came on my music mix a few days ago. It reminded me of falling in love with him in college: how he made me scream, and laugh, [...]
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The Junky's Wife recently posted about an article that's been doing its wildfire dance through the Internet. It passed through my inbox several times as girlfriend after girlfriend blasted it out to everyone in their address books until I got the creepy feeling that this was the [...]
"It is confusing to be in relationships and not know where we stand... We have a right to be direct about how we define the relationship — what we want it to be. But relationships equal two people who have equal rights. The other person needs to be able to define the [...]
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I have spent my share of time cyberstalking the women my husband has acted out with. (Hey, I'm codependent; I'm really, really good at focusing on people who aren't me.) And I'm not alone. Focusing on and obsessing about the activities of acting [...]
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With the story of South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford's week-long disappearance to visit his mistress in Argentina buzzing about, we're faced yet again with a barrage of images of a public figure tearfully apologizing for his infidelity, while his job hangs in jeopardy.* And in [...]
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When I found out about my husband's sex addiction, I spent weeks ripping every last Who and Where and What and How Often out of him. While he was at work, I'd make lists of questions and then keep him up late into the [...]
Next weekend is Mark's
Sex Addicts Anonymous
annual retreat.
Every year I joke,
"I could send prostitutes there
and make a killing!"
Every year he laughs
and says "I'm off to sex camp."
We kiss bye, smiling.
Recovery and
addiction may be no joke,
but it helps to laugh.
Way back a year and a half ago, I entered a contest to win a copy of the book Momma Zen by Karen Maezen Miller. I had never heard of the book, so I based my decision on the following factors:
It was a free book.
The title had both Momma and Zen in it, which [...]
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A few months ago, a friend of mine, who is a single mom, asked me if I'd be willing to help her out while she worked late, because she'd missed a few days taking care of her son when he was sick and now needed to put [...]
