While this post doesn't contain any sexually explicit content, I do describe my feelings the first time my husband and I made love, which may be triggering to some addicts. Image credit: Photo byTheremina on FlickrLicensed under Creative Commons This morning when I woke up, my husband was getting dressed. I leaned on one elbow [...]
Posts under ‘infidelity’
Is John Edwards a Sex Addict?
Last week, I asked you all to ask me anything (I'm still taking questions; keep them coming!), and I noticed that one question has been on many of your virtual lips: "Is John Edwards a sex addict?" And (on a related note): "Is everyone who has an affair a sex addict?" I'll take the second [...]
Aftermath (and Epilogue)
This is the seventh and (and final!) post in a series on how I came to discover my husband's sex addiction five years ago. Photo credit: gebauer on Flickr The days and weeks that followed my husband's initial admission of infidelity blend together almost inseparably now. There are incidents that stand out in sharp relief, [...]
Explosion
This is the sixth in a series of posts on how I came to discover my husband's sex addiction five years ago. "I had sex with that woman." That statement, spoken nearly five years ago, was Mark's first act in recovery from sex addiction and brought the truth blazing upon us both at last. In [...]
It all Comes back Around
This is the fifth in a series of posts on how I came to discover my husband's sex addiction five years ago. During the last trimester of my pregnancy with my daughter, I entered a nesting phase, cleaning and organizing obsessively in preparation for her arrival. One of the tasks I set for myself was [...]
The Penultimate Piece of the Puzzle
This is the fourth in a series of posts on how I came to discover my husband's sex addiction five years ago. When our son was born, our world performed one neat pirouette before going into a crazy, unexpected, largely incomprehensible interpretive dance. Mark and I found ourselves crazy in love with this tiny creature [...]
House, Hillary and an Honesty Oxymoron
You all know how the song goes: honesty is such a lonely word. Yep, and everyone is so untrue. Or to take us into the current century and an entirely different pop culture icon: Everyone lies. Tell me that you never lie, and like House, I'll tell you you're lying. Yet, if you're anything like [...]
Patterns
Image credit: Art by chwalker01 on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When I started attending 12 Step meetings to cope with my husband's sex addiction, I met many women who had been married multiple times, each time to an addict. One husband may have been an alcoholic, one might have been a drug addict, and [...]
I’m Not Codependent, Shut Up!
When Mark admitted he was a sex addict, my life crumbled down around me. I don't know where I would have been without my son and the little life inside me that was growing to be my daughter. Maybe I would have laid on the ground and let the wreckage rain down on me. Maybe [...]
Santa Doesn’t Live Here Anymore
When my father told me there was no real Santa, I cried, a lot. I didn't cry because I was surprised or felt particularly lied to. I knew long before he told me that there was no Santa, but I wanted to go on living in that fantasy world. I felt betrayed that my parents, [...]
