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"I don't like Agnes much," said my mother, "She's definitely no Aunt Gerty. But it's because Gerty was so wonderful that I think Uncle Fred is marrying Agnes."
"What do you mean?" I asked. Uncle Fred and Aunt Gerty had been married over fifty years [...]
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Just days before I discovered my husband Mark's sex addiction, we were shopping in Target, when we passed a young woman. "Hi, Mark!" she chimed, smiling brightly. Then she turned to her shopping companion, a man who was glowering at Mark, and said, "Jimmy, this is my [...]
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"You know," joked my husband Mark, "I think you ought to be paying me royalties. You wouldn't have anything to write about without me..."
"I know. It's true. That's the sad life of a codependent. My problem is being all wrapped up in [...]
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Silk is a sexy fabric. It's smooth and soft and falls in glistening ripples like waves. Years ago, shortly before I moved to another state to be with Mark, I sent him a pair of silk boxers as a gift, and he wrote me [...]
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Eight years ago, in spite of the fact that we were both exhausted by caring for our infant son, I found that my husband Mark was staying up later and later at night. He had to be up at 5 a.m. to get ready for work, [...]
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"Worry Brain, your mama's so ugly, she makes onions cry!" I found myself saying after I got off the phone with my husband. I had to hang up the phone because I'd burst into tears, and now I was trying to beat back the anxiety that was [...]
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A few months after I first met Mark in college, we ran into each other in a campus dining hall. As we chatted, he admired my high school class ring. I held my hand out to let him see it more closely, and peering down [...]
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The Junky's Wife recently posted about an article that's been doing its wildfire dance through the Internet. It passed through my inbox several times as girlfriend after girlfriend blasted it out to everyone in their address books until I got the creepy feeling that this was the [...]
"It is confusing to be in relationships and not know where we stand... We have a right to be direct about how we define the relationship — what we want it to be. But relationships equal two people who have equal rights. The other person needs to be able to define the [...]
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The anniversary passed quite unnoticed this year; the days slipped away, and months went by before either of us realized it. Somewhere along the way — on some routine day — my husband and I passed a milestone in our relationship and our recovery and didn't [...]
