Image credit: Art by hellvet2000 on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons "Worry Brain, your mama's so ugly, she makes onions cry!" I found myself saying after I got off the phone with my husband. I had to hang up the phone because I'd burst into tears, and now I was trying to beat back the [...]
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Spontaneity
Image credit: Photo by indoloony on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons A few months after I first met Mark in college, we ran into each other in a campus dining hall. As we chatted, he admired my high school class ring. I held my hand out to let him see it more closely, and peering [...]
I Don’t Buy It
Image credit: Photo by lamazone on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons The Junky's Wife recently posted about an article that's been doing its wildfire dance through the Internet. It passed through my inbox several times as girlfriend after girlfriend blasted it out to everyone in their address books until I got the creepy feeling that [...]
Honesty Is the Best Policy
"It is confusing to be in relationships and not know where we stand... We have a right to be direct about how we define the relationship — what we want it to be. But relationships equal two people who have equal rights. The other person needs to be able to define the relationship to. We [...]
Milestone
Image credit: Photo by scribbletaylor on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons The anniversary passed quite unnoticed this year; the days slipped away, and months went by before either of us realized it. Somewhere along the way — on some routine day — my husband and I passed a milestone in our relationship and our recovery [...]
Business Trip Phobia
Image credit: Photo by sweetteaindahouse on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I fear business trips. But it's not my own business trips I fear — as a mom who left corporate work behind some nine years ago, I don't get those myself anymore — it's my husband's. When Mark was active in his sex addiction, [...]
It’s Not About Sex
Image credit: Photo by Leo Reynolds on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons With the story of South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford's week-long disappearance to visit his mistress in Argentina buzzing about, we're faced yet again with a barrage of images of a public figure tearfully apologizing for his infidelity, while his job hangs in jeopardy.* [...]
Finding God Together
Image credit: Photo by ashley.adcox on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons "Do you remember what you said to me when I first started talking about God?" Mark asked the other day, "You said, 'I am willing to try to work through this sex addiction crap, but if you ever become a Christian, I swear, I [...]
Recovery is Sexy
Image credit: Photo by Eternal ☼ Sunshine on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons It was raining the night I first kissed my husband. The wind was hissing and howling through the bare branches of the trees, rattling the last of the dead leaves still clinging to their posts. Before we kissed, we twined our hands [...]
Finding Beautiful
Image credit: Photo by litmuse on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When Mark and I were at the very beginning of our relationship, moving from a flirtatious friendship into love, he signed off some early little love note "a thousand ships for my beautiful." Now who was I to resist a suave Helen of Troy [...]
