Image credit: Photo by chandrika221 on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons There are certain moments in my life that I come back to, over and over, the way Monet came back to his waterlilies: trying to capture the way they look at just this moment, from just this perspective, in just this light. The moment [...]
Posts under ‘not just a river in Egypt’
Looking Back
Image credit: Art by jeloid on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I started keeping a journal semi-regularly when I was in middle school. My very earliest journal entries are a thrilling roller coaster ride through the life of a suburban tween: from the heartbreaking lows of the cancellation of my favorite TV show to the [...]
Resistance Is Futile
Image credit: Photo by mydearDelilah on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons During the first year after I discovered my husband's sex addiction, I attended S-Anon, 12 Step meetings for friends and family members of sex addicts. At the beginning of each meeting we would read "The S-Anon Problem." I hated "The S-Anon Problem." I hated [...]
The Trappings of Success
Image credit: Art by Rob Sheridan on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Years ago, before I knew about my husband's sex addiction, one of the things that drew me to him, that I really liked and respected about him, was how he seemed to have broken away from the pattern of addiction and dysfunction in [...]
Codie Dreams of Self Doubt
Image credit: Photo by onkel_wart on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Sometimes my subconscious likes to be really mysterious in its messages to me (so, why, exactly, did a frog hop on the big pink bubble gum bubble I was blowing?). Sometimes it likes to tell jokes. Sometimes it (like many a subconscious) likes to [...]
Doubt
Image credit: Photo by Daniel Y. Go on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When my husband was still active in his sex addiction and I was still unaware of it, we lived our life (as many living with active addiction do) enveloped in fantasy. We frolicked inside a rainbow in a castle made of pink [...]
What Would a Healthy Person Do?
Image credit: Photo by c@rljones on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When I first discovered my husband's addiction, I knew I was going to need healing from the pain and devastation I was facing, so I looked for support groups for partners. But I couldn't seem to find plain old support; all I could find [...]
Dry Codie
Image credit: Photo by Vu Bui on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Many years ago, I was in a relationship that was extremely dysfunctional and unhealthy for me; so much so that my marriage to a sex addict has always (even at its absolute worst) seemed to me to be healthy by comparison. In that [...]
Grief and Recovery
Image credit: Photo by Creativity+ Timothy K Hamilton on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When I first found out about my husband's sex addiction, a therapist suggested that I go to a grief support group. The suggestion felt so uncomfortable to me that I never did follow through on it. I thought, "How are these [...]
But It Was an iPhone Glitch, Baby!
Image credit: Photo by CJ Sorg on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons The Junky's Wife recently forwarded me a news story about a woman who posted a question to Apple's support forum about a possible problem with her husband's iPhone. "Susan042764" from New Jersey asked if there was any known issue with iPhones attaching and [...]
