Image credit: Photo by BGLewandowski on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I rashly went out Halloween costume shopping a few days ago. I'm not sure what I was thinking. Well, I know I needed to pick up a costume for my daughter — Yes, a few days shy of Halloween. I'm totally on top of [...]
Posts under ‘pornography’
A Problem Is a Problem
Image credit: Photo by Esther_G on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Eight years ago, in spite of the fact that we were both exhausted by caring for our infant son, I found that my husband Mark was staying up later and later at night. He had to be up at 5 a.m. to get ready [...]
Lingerie, Sex Toys and Me?
Warning: this post, and the site I link to, may be triggering to sex addicts. Image credit: Photo by kchbrown on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons A few weeks ago, I got an e-mail from a woman named Paula Saardchit. She told me she'd found my blog while doing research for an article she was [...]
Business Trip Phobia
Image credit: Photo by sweetteaindahouse on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I fear business trips. But it's not my own business trips I fear — as a mom who left corporate work behind some nine years ago, I don't get those myself anymore — it's my husband's. When Mark was active in his sex addiction, [...]
Pornography: The Sweat Shop Secret
Image credit: Photo bythegreenpages on FlickrLicensed under Creative Commons People (particularly women) who work in the porn industry are being abused and exploited. Think about that statement. (You're already framing your argument, agreeing or disagreeing, aren't you?) Now think about this one: People (particularly women) who work in the garment industry are being abused and [...]
Why I Stopped Hanging Out with Porn
When I posted a few months ago (starting here) about how I came to discover my husband's sex addiction, I wrote a post about his porn use and promised to follow up with a post about my own complicated feelings about and relationship with porn. But it's only been recently that I've gotten my mind [...]
Sexy
There used to be times when I would see certain women and feel an intense, irrational hatred toward them. I wasn't sure where the feeling came from, but I knew it had something to do with sex. Some were women I knew personally, like coworkers or acquaintances or even retail clerks. Some were women I'd [...]
The Penultimate Piece of the Puzzle
This is the fourth in a series of posts on how I came to discover my husband's sex addiction five years ago. When our son was born, our world performed one neat pirouette before going into a crazy, unexpected, largely incomprehensible interpretive dance. Mark and I found ourselves crazy in love with this tiny creature [...]
Ask Aunt Babz
Since my husband admitted his sexual addiction to me four years ago, I have found friends confiding in me about their own problems in sexual relationships and asking for advice. I try to be, especially now that I'm in recovery, more of a listener than an advice-giver, although (progress not perfection) I don't always succeed. [...]
