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"I don't like Agnes much," said my mother, "She's definitely no Aunt Gerty. But it's because Gerty was so wonderful that I think Uncle Fred is marrying Agnes."
"What do you mean?" I asked. Uncle Fred and Aunt Gerty had been married over fifty years [...]
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I finally got around to watching the Tiger Woods apology speech, and I have to admit, I was impressed. As a New York Times article pointed out, even without explicitly saying the words "sex addiction" or "12 Step" the speech clearly implied both. In a way it [...]
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My husband Mark, I have to admit it, hates fish. And people fish evangelize him all the time. I used to too, in my pre-vegetarian days, when a trip to the aquarium would make me hungry. The problem, you see, is never that [...]
I was browsing around Target the other day, when I came across the most fabulous book I have seen in a long, long time: How to Change Someone You Love: Four Steps to Help You Help Them. I laughed the kind of laugh that ought to have sent flocks of birds scattering in alarm. Instead [...]
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Last week, I was sitting cross-legged on my plump little black cushion on the floor of the Zendo I visit regularly and listening to a talk about cleaning incense burners. And as I listened, the very deep and profound thought that came to me was, "I seriously [...]
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I was reading over some of the words of Martin Luther King Jr. today, and came across some that reminded me very much of something I used to repeat to myself and my husband in the wake of disclosure of his sex addiction: "There can be no [...]
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Just days before I discovered my husband Mark's sex addiction, we were shopping in Target, when we passed a young woman. "Hi, Mark!" she chimed, smiling brightly. Then she turned to her shopping companion, a man who was glowering at Mark, and said, "Jimmy, this is my [...]
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Several people have asked me if I watched Oprah's show on sex addiction last Monday. The answer is "sort of." I don't watch Oprah much, and apparently Oprah likes it that way. I missed episode, and while there are clips on YouTube, I can't seem to [...]
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You know why I hate the word codependent? (And although I have taken on that label, I still truly do.) It has the word "dependent" right there in the word. Weak, wussy little "dependent." It practically whines at you: "I'm so helpless. I can't do anything [...]
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My 12 Step group had some difficulty recently around a reading that listed some of the behaviors partners of sex addicts might have in common. Many of the women in the group found it triggering, because they felt the list of characteristics implied there was something wrong with [...]
