Image credit: Photo by Darwin Bell on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons My husband Mark, I have to admit it, hates fish. And people fish evangelize him all the time. I used to too, in my pre-vegetarian days, when a trip to the aquarium would make me hungry. The problem, you see, is never that [...]
Posts under ‘recovery’
How to Change Anyone!
I was browsing around Target the other day, when I came across the most fabulous book I have seen in a long, long time: How to Change Someone You Love: Four Steps to Help You Help Them. I laughed the kind of laugh that ought to have sent flocks of birds scattering in alarm. Instead [...]
Zen and the Art of Perfectionism
Image credit: Photo by h.koppdelaney on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Last week, I was sitting cross-legged on my plump little black cushion on the floor of the Zendo I visit regularly and listening to a talk about cleaning incense burners. And as I listened, the very deep and profound thought that came to me [...]
Martin Luther King Jr. and Recovery
Image credit: Photo by *_Abhi_* on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I was reading over some of the words of Martin Luther King Jr. today, and came across some that reminded me very much of something I used to repeat to myself and my husband in the wake of disclosure of his sex addiction: "There [...]
Starbucks
Image credit: Photo by brownpau on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Just days before I discovered my husband Mark's sex addiction, we were shopping in Target, when we passed a young woman. "Hi, Mark!" she chimed, smiling brightly. Then she turned to her shopping companion, a man who was glowering at Mark, and said, "Jimmy, [...]
Oprah, Dr. Drew and Me
Image credit: Photo by Thomas Hawk on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Several people have asked me if I watched Oprah's show on sex addiction last Monday. The answer is "sort of." I don't watch Oprah much, and apparently Oprah likes it that way. I missed episode, and while there are clips on YouTube, I [...]
Asking for Help
Image credit: Photo by Jose Téllez on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons You know why I hate the word codependent? (And although I have taken on that label, I still truly do.) It has the word "dependent" right there in the word. Weak, wussy little "dependent." It practically whines at you: "I'm so helpless. I [...]
Not Alone
Image credit: Photo by Viqi French Licensed under Creative Commons My 12 Step group had some difficulty recently around a reading that listed some of the behaviors partners of sex addicts might have in common. Many of the women in the group found it triggering, because they felt the list of characteristics implied there was [...]
Recovery Nerds on New Moon
This post includes some spoilers. It's been a long time since I nerdily reviewed a movie, but my husband and I went to see New Moon this weekend, and I just couldn't resist writing a post about it. The movie is a vampire love story. No, actually it's a vampire, werewolf, human love triangle. Bella [...]
Flash Forward
Always a sucker for both science fiction and anything vaguely related to time travel, this season I've started watching ABC's new series, Flash Forward. The premise of the show is that everyone on Earth simultaneously loses consciousness for approximately two minutes and sees visions of a few minutes of their lives six months in the [...]
