Image credit: Photo by stuant63 Licensed under Creative Commons I've been working through the 12 Steps again, more slowly this time than my last time through. This week, I worked through an exercise where I looked at patterns of compulsive behavior in my life and I was struck (again) by how powerfully my life is [...]
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If You Only Knew
"What am I going to say to people? I mean, they're going to ask, 'What are you doing these days?' and what am I supposed to do? I don't know how to make small talk anymore, let alone tell them what's been going on," I told my friend Jess after she met me at the [...]
Al-Anon: The Made-for-TV Movie
A few days ago, The Junky's Wife sent me an e-mail with the subject line "Lois Movie!" (Yes, I am shamelessly piggybacking on JW's superior recovery research skills and pop culture knowledge.) Now for most people, that might imply that a new Superman film is coming out. After all, in spite of the fact that [...]
Background Noise
Image credit: Photo by fd on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons "The level of sexual imagery in modern life is astounding. I knew intuitively this was true, but when you tune into it, you just can't believe it. I click on the Yahoo! finance page, and there's this blond model in a low-cut dress looking [...]
Sabbath
Image credit: Photo by Vanessa Pike-Russell on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Spiritual inspiration can come from the oddest bits of serendipity. I was at a talk a few months ago by a Zen Buddhist who talked about making each moment sacred, about how we could light incense before doing the dishes and make the [...]
Scary
Image credit: Photo by BGLewandowski on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I rashly went out Halloween costume shopping a few days ago. I'm not sure what I was thinking. Well, I know I needed to pick up a costume for my daughter — Yes, a few days shy of Halloween. I'm totally on top of [...]
Laughter
Image credit: Photo by .sanden. on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons "So at my meeting last night, I wanted to say that sex addicts are hot, but there were a few newcomers, and newcomers don't think that's so funny," I told my husband Mark as we were getting ready for bed. Mark laughed. He knows [...]
Smooth as Silk
Image credit: Photo by Jesse Draper on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Silk is a sexy fabric. It's smooth and soft and falls in glistening ripples like waves. Years ago, shortly before I moved to another state to be with Mark, I sent him a pair of silk boxers as a gift, and he wrote [...]
My Husband’s Denial
Image credit: Photo by ortizmj12 on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons One morning, eight years ago, I turned on the desktop computer my husband Mark and I shared and called up the keystroke logging software I had installed. Mark didn't know that the computer was secretly taking notes on every character he typed, and I [...]
A Problem Is a Problem
Image credit: Photo by Esther_G on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Eight years ago, in spite of the fact that we were both exhausted by caring for our infant son, I found that my husband Mark was staying up later and later at night. He had to be up at 5 a.m. to get ready [...]
