Image credit: Photo by Kikishua on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons In my bedroom, buried in a pile of papers is a questionnaire labeled "The Marriage Expectation Inventory." Each question is answered in neatly printed block letters in purple ink. After nearly a decade and a half, the ink has started to bleed through the [...]
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Stuff You Shouldn’t Post on the Internet
Spock - Evil Spock Image credit: Photo by Dave Friedel on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I was going to write this post about Facebook. And Privacy. And Privacy's evil twin, Secrecy. And how when we say Privacy, we often really mean Secrecy. Because not only do well-intentioned but befuddled people confuse the two, but [...]
Prayer
Image credit: Photo by the italian Jonathan on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons A few days ago, a columnist I generally like wrote a satirical piece on sex addiction rehab (one I won't link to here, due to its triggering nature). He's a liberal columnist, so the comments were populated with lots of LOLs and [...]
A Spoon Is Not a Spoon
Image credit: Photo by skinnylaminx on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons As I write this, I have a cup of tea beside me, and I am trying to get myself to drink it. I'm not hesitating because I don't like tea or because I think it will be unpleasant. I'm hesitating because I'm trying to [...]
The Grocery Store Gamut
Image credit: Photo by blackbiscuits on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons One day, early in his recovery work around sex addiction, Mark and I were standing in line at the grocery store, when I commented on a headline on one of the news magazines. "I can't look," Mark said. "What?" "It's not good for me. [...]
Signposts Along the Way
Image credit: Photo by funkypancake on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Sometimes people ask me (and frankly, sometimes I ask myself) how I went from being very vocal in my rejection of God to someone who now talks about God all the damn time. The short and simple answer is: 12 Step recovery (which is [...]
Experience, Strength and Hope
Image credit: Photo by jaxxon on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons A little less than a year ago, I moved my blog to its own URL, and when I did so, I had the opportunity to reread many of my old posts as I updated broken links (still not all fixed, by the way). As [...]
Don’t Take My Kodachrome Away
Image credit: Photo by [xinita] is Oliver Twist! on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons When I found out about my husband's sexual addiction, it felt like my emotional landscape faded from bright vivid color to monochrome shades of black and grey. I had three primary emotional settings: fear, anger (shading into full on rage) and [...]
Being Where I Am
Image credit: Art by cjelli on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Five months ago, after a four and a half year hiatus, I once again started attending a 12 Step group for partners of sex addicts. I had just finished working the Steps with an online group and my intention was to join the group [...]
Learning to Say No
I am getting better at saying no, when I mean no, but it's still an area where I have a lot of work to do. Saying "yes" to requests is like a reflex to me. Tap my knee and my foot bounces up, ask me for help and I say, "Yes." Oops. Wait. Let me [...]
