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"I don't like Agnes much," said my mother, "She's definitely no Aunt Gerty. But it's because Gerty was so wonderful that I think Uncle Fred is marrying Agnes."
"What do you mean?" I asked. Uncle Fred and Aunt Gerty had been married over fifty years [...]
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I finally got around to watching the Tiger Woods apology speech, and I have to admit, I was impressed. As a New York Times article pointed out, even without explicitly saying the words "sex addiction" or "12 Step" the speech clearly implied both. In a way it [...]
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I went for a checkup recently, and as I waited for the doctor, I read some of the brochures in the office about heart disease, diabetes, cancer... And found that in nearly every brochure, one of the symptoms listed for cancer was "no symptoms or vague [...]
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Years ago, I met a woman who, when she was disagreeing with her partner, would tell him, "That's not my reality." She had a way of saying it that implied there was a real Reality (hers) and some alternate Crazytown Reality (his). You had only to hear [...]
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This morning, Alix at The Second Road forwarded me a link to an article about sex addiction by psychologist Michael Bader. When I saw the title ("Sex Addiction: A B.S. Excuse for Not Thinking"), I almost didn't click through (the whole "excuse" thing is so tiresome) [...]
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I was reading over some of the words of Martin Luther King Jr. today, and came across some that reminded me very much of something I used to repeat to myself and my husband in the wake of disclosure of his sex addiction: "There can be no [...]
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As someone who lives with the reality of sexually compulsive behavior every day, I have to admit, articles like last month's Forbes magazine piece on whether or not sex addiction exists make me roll my eyes. It's always the same thing, "The idea of [...]
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Our family keeps a pretty rigorous schedule, with nearly every night of the week blocked out for some activity or another, but rather than shuttling between soccer games and dance practice, like many parents in our social group, we're shuttling between different 12 Step meetings.
So, a [...]
Before I knew my husband was a sex addict, I knew that he liked flirting with other women. Probably a little too much. I could tell he got a thrill out of it, and I worried that he would accidentally take this "entertainment" too far. He'd lead some poor woman on and [...]
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Earlier this year, I read an article about technology that would allow us to record and store every moment of our lives. Imagine: our whole lives stored in a single searchable archive. We could settle those arguments with the boss by replaying what was [...]
