Image credit: Photo by the italian Jonathan on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons A few days ago, a columnist I generally like wrote a satirical piece on sex addiction rehab (one I won't link to here, due to its triggering nature). He's a liberal columnist, so the comments were populated with lots of LOLs and [...]
Posts under ‘sex addiction’
A Letter from my Past Self
Image credit: Photo by Deltasly on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Memory is notoriously unreliable: we leave out some details and enhance others; we rewrite old understandings based on what we currently know; we simply forget. I've written about most of the incidents in this blog from memory, even those few events I do have [...]
Golden Years
Image credit: Photo by Travis Jon Allison on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons "I don't like Agnes much," said my mother, "She's definitely no Aunt Gerty. But it's because Gerty was so wonderful that I think Uncle Fred is marrying Agnes." "What do you mean?" I asked. Uncle Fred and Aunt Gerty had been married [...]
Tiger Woods: Destination Unknown
Image credit: Photo by Misserion on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I finally got around to watching the Tiger Woods apology speech, and I have to admit, I was impressed. As a New York Times article pointed out, even without explicitly saying the words "sex addiction" or "12 Step" the speech clearly implied both. In [...]
Warning Signs
Image credit: Photo by kaladan on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I went for a checkup recently, and as I waited for the doctor, I read some of the brochures in the office about heart disease, diabetes, cancer... And found that in nearly every brochure, one of the symptoms listed for cancer was "no symptoms [...]
That’s Not My Experience
Image credit: Photo by Martin_Heigan on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Years ago, I met a woman who, when she was disagreeing with her partner, would tell him, "That's not my reality." She had a way of saying it that implied there was a real Reality (hers) and some alternate Crazytown Reality (his). You had [...]
Diagnosing Sex Addiction (Or Not)
Image credit: Photo by deadstar 2.0 on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons This morning, Alix at The Second Road forwarded me a link to an article about sex addiction by psychologist Michael Bader. When I saw the title ("Sex Addiction: A B.S. Excuse for Not Thinking"), I almost didn't click through (the whole "excuse" thing [...]
Martin Luther King Jr. and Recovery
Image credit: Photo by *_Abhi_* on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I was reading over some of the words of Martin Luther King Jr. today, and came across some that reminded me very much of something I used to repeat to myself and my husband in the wake of disclosure of his sex addiction: "There [...]
What Controversy?
Image credit: Photo by Arty Smokes on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons As someone who lives with the reality of sexually compulsive behavior every day, I have to admit, articles like last month's Forbes magazine piece on whether or not sex addiction exists make me roll my eyes. It's always the same thing, "The idea [...]
A Different World
Image credit: Photo by evilnick on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Our family keeps a pretty rigorous schedule, with nearly every night of the week blocked out for some activity or another, but rather than shuttling between soccer games and dance practice, like many parents in our social group, we're shuttling between different 12 Step [...]
