Before I knew my husband was a sex addict, I knew that he liked flirting with other women. Probably a little too much. I could tell he got a thrill out of it, and I worried that he would accidentally take this "entertainment" too far. He'd lead some poor woman on and she'd get aggressive [...]
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Replay
Image credit: Photo by Great Beyond on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Earlier this year, I read an article about technology that would allow us to record and store every moment of our lives. Imagine: our whole lives stored in a single searchable archive. We could settle those arguments with the boss by replaying what [...]
Starbucks
Image credit: Photo by brownpau on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Just days before I discovered my husband Mark's sex addiction, we were shopping in Target, when we passed a young woman. "Hi, Mark!" she chimed, smiling brightly. Then she turned to her shopping companion, a man who was glowering at Mark, and said, "Jimmy, [...]
My Muse
Image credit: Photo by Ape Lad on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons "You know," joked my husband Mark, "I think you ought to be paying me royalties. You wouldn't have anything to write about without me..." "I know. It's true. That's the sad life of a codependent. My problem is being all wrapped up in [...]
The Grocery Store Gamut
Image credit: Photo by blackbiscuits on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons One day, early in his recovery work around sex addiction, Mark and I were standing in line at the grocery store, when I commented on a headline on one of the news magazines. "I can't look," Mark said. "What?" "It's not good for me. [...]
Killing Me Softly
Image credit: Photo by Estrella Esteve on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons "I can't hear this song without thinking of you," I said to Mark as The Cure's "Just Like Heaven" came on my music mix a few days ago. It reminded me of falling in love with him in college: how he made me [...]
The Long-Awaited Tiger Woods Post
Image credit: Photo by Stefano A on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons "Is Tiger Woods a sex addict?" "What do you think about Tiger?" "Aren't you going to write about Tiger Woods?" The questions have been peppering my inbox, but I've been avoiding the topic. On the one hand, I love a good celebrity sex [...]
Parenting 101
Image credit: Photo by -Gerol on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons If you have kids, or if you're planning to have kids, or if you know people who have kids and know you'd do it better, you should listen up today, because I am going to do something I rarely do: tell you all how [...]
Orchid Children
Image credit: Photo by Te55 on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons One thing most addicts have in common is a history of childhood abuse or neglect. According to research by sex addiction expert Patrick Carnes, 81% of sex addicts were sexually abused as children and 97% were physically and/or emotionally abused or neglected. But quote [...]
Oprah, Dr. Drew and Me
Image credit: Photo by Thomas Hawk on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Several people have asked me if I watched Oprah's show on sex addiction last Monday. The answer is "sort of." I don't watch Oprah much, and apparently Oprah likes it that way. I missed episode, and while there are clips on YouTube, I [...]
