Image credit: Photo by -Gerol on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons If you have kids, or if you're planning to have kids, or if you know people who have kids and know you'd do it better, you should listen up today, because I am going to do something I rarely do: tell you all how [...]
Posts under ‘sexual abuse’
Orchid Children
Image credit: Photo by Te55 on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons One thing most addicts have in common is a history of childhood abuse or neglect. According to research by sex addiction expert Patrick Carnes, 81% of sex addicts were sexually abused as children and 97% were physically and/or emotionally abused or neglected. But quote [...]
Recovery is Sexy
Image credit: Photo by Eternal ☼ Sunshine on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons It was raining the night I first kissed my husband. The wind was hissing and howling through the bare branches of the trees, rattling the last of the dead leaves still clinging to their posts. Before we kissed, we twined our hands [...]
What Causes Sex Addiction?
Image credit: Art by catnapping on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons In a comment on a recent Second Road post, patti asked what the possible causes of sex addiction are. I imagine nearly everyone whose life has been affected by addiction asks some version of the same question: Why do addicts do what they do? [...]
Review of The Sexually Confident Wife
When I received an e-mail from the publishers of The Sexually Confident Wife asking if I wanted to review it,* I was skeptical. After all, "sexual confidence" in our society usually implies acting like a porn star. I imagined a lot of Sexual Codependents' Magazine (ahem, I mean Cosmo Magazine) type fluff on "10 Sex [...]
Pornography: The Sweat Shop Secret
Image credit: Photo bythegreenpages on FlickrLicensed under Creative Commons People (particularly women) who work in the porn industry are being abused and exploited. Think about that statement. (You're already framing your argument, agreeing or disagreeing, aren't you?) Now think about this one: People (particularly women) who work in the garment industry are being abused and [...]
Why I Stopped Hanging Out with Porn
When I posted a few months ago (starting here) about how I came to discover my husband's sex addiction, I wrote a post about his porn use and promised to follow up with a post about my own complicated feelings about and relationship with porn. But it's only been recently that I've gotten my mind [...]
Sexy
There used to be times when I would see certain women and feel an intense, irrational hatred toward them. I wasn't sure where the feeling came from, but I knew it had something to do with sex. Some were women I knew personally, like coworkers or acquaintances or even retail clerks. Some were women I'd [...]
