Posts under ‘sexuality’

The Grocery Store Gamut

Image credit: Photo by blackbiscuits on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons One day, early in his recovery work around sex addiction, Mark and I were standing in line at the grocery store, when I commented on a headline on one of the news magazines.  "I can't look," Mark said. "What?" "It's not good for me.  [...]

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Background Noise

Image credit: Photo by fd on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons "The level of sexual imagery in modern life is astounding. I knew intuitively this was true, but when you tune into it, you just can't believe it. I click on the Yahoo! finance page, and there's this blond model in a low-cut dress looking [...]

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Scary

Image credit: Photo by BGLewandowski on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I rashly went out Halloween costume shopping a few days ago. I'm not sure what I was thinking. Well, I know I needed to pick up a costume for my daughter — Yes, a few days shy of Halloween. I'm totally on top of [...]

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Smooth as Silk

Image credit: Photo by Jesse Draper on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Silk is a sexy fabric. It's smooth and soft and falls in glistening ripples like waves. Years ago, shortly before I moved to another state to be with Mark, I sent him a pair of silk boxers as a gift, and he wrote [...]

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A Problem Is a Problem

Image credit: Photo by Esther_G on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Eight years ago, in spite of the fact that we were both exhausted by caring for our infant son, I found that my husband Mark was staying up later and later at night. He had to be up at 5 a.m. to get ready [...]

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Lingerie, Sex Toys and Me?

Warning: this post, and the site I link to, may be triggering to sex addicts. Image credit: Photo by kchbrown on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons A few weeks ago, I got an e-mail from a woman named Paula Saardchit. She told me she'd found my blog while doing research for an article she was [...]

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It’s Not About Sex

Image credit: Photo by Leo Reynolds on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons With the story of South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford's week-long disappearance to visit his mistress in Argentina buzzing about, we're faced yet again with a barrage of images of a public figure tearfully apologizing for his infidelity, while his job hangs in jeopardy.* [...]

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Recovery is Sexy

Image credit: Photo by Eternal ☼ Sunshine on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons It was raining the night I first kissed my husband. The wind was hissing and howling through the bare branches of the trees, rattling the last of the dead leaves still clinging to their posts. Before we kissed, we twined our hands [...]

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Review of The Sexually Confident Wife

When I received an e-mail from the publishers of The Sexually Confident Wife asking if I wanted to review it,* I was skeptical. After all, "sexual confidence" in our society usually implies acting like a porn star. I imagined a lot of Sexual Codependents' Magazine (ahem, I mean Cosmo Magazine) type fluff on "10 Sex [...]

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No Need for 12 Step, Just Loosen Up!

Warning! This post contains sarcasm. Those with sarcasm allergies are strongly advised to consult a doctor before reading. Image credit: Photo by kk+ on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I was reading The Huffington Post (my source for all things sex related), when I came across a piece called "Am I a Slut or Do [...]

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