Image credit: Photo by blackbiscuits on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons One day, early in his recovery work around sex addiction, Mark and I were standing in line at the grocery store, when I commented on a headline on one of the news magazines. "I can't look," Mark said. "What?" "It's not good for me. [...]
Posts under ‘the pornification of America’
Background Noise
Image credit: Photo by fd on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons "The level of sexual imagery in modern life is astounding. I knew intuitively this was true, but when you tune into it, you just can't believe it. I click on the Yahoo! finance page, and there's this blond model in a low-cut dress looking [...]
Scary
Image credit: Photo by BGLewandowski on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I rashly went out Halloween costume shopping a few days ago. I'm not sure what I was thinking. Well, I know I needed to pick up a costume for my daughter — Yes, a few days shy of Halloween. I'm totally on top of [...]
A Problem Is a Problem
Image credit: Photo by Esther_G on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Eight years ago, in spite of the fact that we were both exhausted by caring for our infant son, I found that my husband Mark was staying up later and later at night. He had to be up at 5 a.m. to get ready [...]
Lingerie, Sex Toys and Me?
Warning: this post, and the site I link to, may be triggering to sex addicts. Image credit: Photo by kchbrown on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons A few weeks ago, I got an e-mail from a woman named Paula Saardchit. She told me she'd found my blog while doing research for an article she was [...]
Pornography: The Sweat Shop Secret
Image credit: Photo bythegreenpages on FlickrLicensed under Creative Commons People (particularly women) who work in the porn industry are being abused and exploited. Think about that statement. (You're already framing your argument, agreeing or disagreeing, aren't you?) Now think about this one: People (particularly women) who work in the garment industry are being abused and [...]
Capitalizing on Addiction
Image credit: Photo by hellochris on Flickr A year ago, when I was trying to get through to my husband that we were spending faster than we were earning and that our credit cushion was wearing dangerously thin, he had a brilliant idea, "Let's get another credit card." Yep. We're running out of credit, we'll [...]
I Don’t Even Know Where to Start
The spectacular (sadly blogless) Edith Whoreton, has once again funneled me a wonderful article. This one, from New York Magazine, is on sex and marriage. There are so many things wrong with it that I don't even know where to start using my keen intellect and rapier wit to skewer it. So, I decided to [...]
Why I Stopped Hanging Out with Porn
When I posted a few months ago (starting here) about how I came to discover my husband's sex addiction, I wrote a post about his porn use and promised to follow up with a post about my own complicated feelings about and relationship with porn. But it's only been recently that I've gotten my mind [...]
Sexy
There used to be times when I would see certain women and feel an intense, irrational hatred toward them. I wasn't sure where the feeling came from, but I knew it had something to do with sex. Some were women I knew personally, like coworkers or acquaintances or even retail clerks. Some were women I'd [...]
