Image credit: Photo by Elizabeth The Queen Of All Things on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons For the past year and a half, I have been a regular contributor at the recovery website The Second Road. I learned today that The Second Road will cease operations this month. The content will remain available but unfortunately [...]
Posts under ‘The Second Road’
Different Strokes
Image credit: Photo by Darwin Bell on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons My husband Mark, I have to admit it, hates fish. And people fish evangelize him all the time. I used to too, in my pre-vegetarian days, when a trip to the aquarium would make me hungry. The problem, you see, is never that [...]
Slogans
Image credit: Photo by Darwin Bell on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons A friend called me last night. She's in the midst of some very messy office politics at work. She thinks her coworkers are being difficult. They think she's being unreasonable. Her boss thinks they're all wrong and they all think the boss is [...]
How to Change Anyone!
I was browsing around Target the other day, when I came across the most fabulous book I have seen in a long, long time: How to Change Someone You Love: Four Steps to Help You Help Them. I laughed the kind of laugh that ought to have sent flocks of birds scattering in alarm. Instead [...]
Zen and the Art of Perfectionism
Image credit: Photo by h.koppdelaney on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Last week, I was sitting cross-legged on my plump little black cushion on the floor of the Zendo I visit regularly and listening to a talk about cleaning incense burners. And as I listened, the very deep and profound thought that came to me [...]
Martin Luther King Jr. and Recovery
Image credit: Photo by *_Abhi_* on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons I was reading over some of the words of Martin Luther King Jr. today, and came across some that reminded me very much of something I used to repeat to myself and my husband in the wake of disclosure of his sex addiction: "There [...]
Busting my Grocery Bag
Image credit: Photo by fixlr on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons My husband Mark cannot take care of himself. Really, the man cannot even keep track of what he likes. I have to do it for him. I present as evidence the last few weeks of grocery shopping. Last week, Mark was sick, and I [...]
A Different World
Image credit: Photo by evilnick on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Our family keeps a pretty rigorous schedule, with nearly every night of the week blocked out for some activity or another, but rather than shuttling between soccer games and dance practice, like many parents in our social group, we're shuttling between different 12 Step [...]
Codependence Is the Mother of Invention
Before I knew my husband was a sex addict, I knew that he liked flirting with other women. Probably a little too much. I could tell he got a thrill out of it, and I worried that he would accidentally take this "entertainment" too far. He'd lead some poor woman on and she'd get aggressive [...]
Replay
Image credit: Photo by Great Beyond on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Earlier this year, I read an article about technology that would allow us to record and store every moment of our lives. Imagine: our whole lives stored in a single searchable archive. We could settle those arguments with the boss by replaying what [...]
