Image credit: Photo by Jose Téllez on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons You know why I hate the word codependent? (And although I have taken on that label, I still truly do.) It has the word "dependent" right there in the word. Weak, wussy little "dependent." It practically whines at you: "I'm so helpless. I [...]
Posts under ‘The Second Road’
Not Alone
Image credit: Photo by Viqi French Licensed under Creative Commons My 12 Step group had some difficulty recently around a reading that listed some of the behaviors partners of sex addicts might have in common. Many of the women in the group found it triggering, because they felt the list of characteristics implied there was [...]
Recovery Nerds on New Moon
This post includes some spoilers. It's been a long time since I nerdily reviewed a movie, but my husband and I went to see New Moon this weekend, and I just couldn't resist writing a post about it. The movie is a vampire love story. No, actually it's a vampire, werewolf, human love triangle. Bella [...]
Flash Forward
Always a sucker for both science fiction and anything vaguely related to time travel, this season I've started watching ABC's new series, Flash Forward. The premise of the show is that everyone on Earth simultaneously loses consciousness for approximately two minutes and sees visions of a few minutes of their lives six months in the [...]
Fear
Image credit: Photo by stuant63 Licensed under Creative Commons I've been working through the 12 Steps again, more slowly this time than my last time through. This week, I worked through an exercise where I looked at patterns of compulsive behavior in my life and I was struck (again) by how powerfully my life is [...]
My First Sabbath
Image credit: Photo by Saad.Akhtar Licensed under Creative Commons Last week, oddly inspired by the humorous book The Year of Living Biblically, I decided I wanted to try to add a little Sabbath into my own life. Couldn't I use a day of rest once a week, even if I didn't have an organized religion [...]
If You Only Knew
"What am I going to say to people? I mean, they're going to ask, 'What are you doing these days?' and what am I supposed to do? I don't know how to make small talk anymore, let alone tell them what's been going on," I told my friend Jess after she met me at the [...]
Al-Anon: The Made-for-TV Movie
A few days ago, The Junky's Wife sent me an e-mail with the subject line "Lois Movie!" (Yes, I am shamelessly piggybacking on JW's superior recovery research skills and pop culture knowledge.) Now for most people, that might imply that a new Superman film is coming out. After all, in spite of the fact that [...]
Background Noise
Image credit: Photo by fd on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons "The level of sexual imagery in modern life is astounding. I knew intuitively this was true, but when you tune into it, you just can't believe it. I click on the Yahoo! finance page, and there's this blond model in a low-cut dress looking [...]
Sabbath
Image credit: Photo by Vanessa Pike-Russell on Flickr Licensed under Creative Commons Spiritual inspiration can come from the oddest bits of serendipity. I was at a talk a few months ago by a Zen Buddhist who talked about making each moment sacred, about how we could light incense before doing the dishes and make the [...]
