Posts under ‘trust’

Codependent Shopping Spree

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The newborn daughter of a very dear friend of mine recently had heart surgery to correct a congenital defect. Fortunately, the surgery went smoothly, the defect was easy to correct and the baby is doing just fine. Still, it's been a few weeks of highly [...]

It’s Not About Sex

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With the story of South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford's week-long disappearance to visit his mistress in Argentina buzzing about, we're faced yet again with a barrage of images of a public figure tearfully apologizing for his infidelity, while his job hangs in jeopardy.* And in [...]

Finding Beautiful

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When Mark and I were at the very beginning of our relationship, moving from a flirtatious friendship into love, he signed off some early little love note "a thousand ships for my beautiful." Now who was I to resist a suave Helen of Troy reference to [...]

Disclosure

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When I found out about my husband's sex addiction, I spent weeks ripping every last Who and Where and What and How Often out of him. While he was at work, I'd make lists of questions and then keep him up late into the [...]

Walking the Crooked Path of Dread

Way back a year and a half ago, I entered a contest to win a copy of the book Momma Zen by Karen Maezen Miller. I had never heard of the book, so I based my decision on the following factors:

It was a free book.
The title had both Momma and Zen in it, which [...]

What if this Person Is Lying?

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A few months ago, a friend of mine, who is a single mom, asked me if I'd be willing to help her out while she worked late, because she'd missed a few days taking care of her son when he was sick and now needed to put [...]

Who Did It?

Anne Lamott (come on, woman, set up a Google alert on your name and come find me already, for crying out loud) is one of my favorite writers. Recently, I have been reading Grace (Eventually) in stolen moments, usually in the bathroom. The kids are not generally deterred by a closed bathroom door, [...]

Leap of Faith

Last week, Misery Marketing asked, "What would you say is the percentage of yourself that really believes he does have a choice to screw around or not and not that he is unwillingly controlled by addiction?"

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Many years ago, when I was in college, I had a conversation [...]

The Penultimate Piece of the Puzzle

This is the fourth in a series of posts on how I came to discover my husband's sex addiction five years ago.
When our son was born, our world performed one neat pirouette before going into a crazy, unexpected, largely incomprehensible interpretive dance. Mark and I found ourselves crazy in love with this tiny creature who [...]

House, Hillary and an Honesty Oxymoron

You all know how the song goes: honesty is such a lonely word. Yep, and everyone is so untrue. Or to take us into the current century and an entirely different pop culture icon: Everyone lies. Tell me that you never lie, and like House, I'll tell you you're lying.
Yet, if you're anything like me, [...]